When Your True Love, Your Soulmate, Dies

There are few blessings in this life more empowering, more energizing, more mentally and physically satisfying than finding our true love, our soulmate.

What is a soulmate? If you have found yours, you already know. If you haven't found yours, it is the person you are continually looking for.

A soulmate is the one person in the world who knows you even better than you know yourself. It is the person who loves and accepts you unconditionally, with all your faults. It is the person who will defend you against all comers, who is totally dedicated to your relationship, who has more in common with you than anyone else. Its the one who makes you happier than you ever thought you could be. A soulmate is the love of your life, your one and only TRUE love. Just as the words imply... it is the person that your very soul has mated with.

A true love, a soulmate is the person you cannot ever see yourself living without. Ever.

But, unfortunately, all humans die.

The death of your soulmate is, by far, the most devastating thing that will ever happen to you because half of your soul dies, too.

How do you survive it when all you want to do is die, too? How to you move on with your life when all you can think about is the fact that you have lost the most important thing in your life? How do you find any interest in living when all that made it worthwhile is gone?

Time, my friend. Time and 4 little words. To tell you what those words are, let me relate my experience and how I discovered and used them.

My soulmate and I were together for 20 years. We had the best relationship anyone could ever imagine. Yes, of course there were ups and downs. It is impossible to be alive and not have ups and downs. There were financial difficulties, job losses, illnesses, disagreements over silly, simple things and disagreements over bigger issues. But, through it all, we were a UNIT. Through everything, we both put what was most important for our relationship above all else. We each were the other's most important thing. We loved each other, we protected each other, we cherished each other.