Thoughts on Marriage from a Minister.

Are you getting married? How is the planning of the wedding going? With so many people getting married these days I feel the need to speak my views as a Minister and as a bride of yesteryear. Too many people are getting married just for the sake of getting married and we really need to ask ourselves, what love has to do with it.

Stop and ask yourself why you are getting married in the first place. Is it for companion ship or is she pregnant? Are you looking for the tax break or do you want someone to care for you? Do you need someone to take care of the bills or the children? These are piss poor reasons for getting married in my book.

In a day and age where too many people are getting married, for the sake of getting married I want no part of that. My parents are celebrating their 46^th anniversary in Mid November, which I find wonderful. I do not personally know anyone here who has even been married twenty plus years except for me and my parents, and that is only because I do not have the money to do divorce him. I am married in name only and I have not lived with my ex in three years.

I admit I was one of those people who got married at 19, yes I was pregnant and in Texas while my family was in Pennsylvania. I needed some way to pay the bills associated with my pregnancy, and did not love him. He knows I did not get married because I loved him it was simply a way to accomplish the goal. Yet within that first year of marriage I did fall deeply in love, and was glad, I had married him even though it was for the wrong reasons.

When teenagers get married now days it is usually because there is a baby coming, and this is wrong. What you want at nineteen is not what you are going to want at twenty, thirty, or even forty. A divorce is much more expensive then a wedding usually, although I went the cheap route and went to the justice of peace for a quick wedding.