BDSM - Female Bisexuality

In the world of BDSM, it is infinitely more common that women are bisexual. If they are not bisexual at first, a lot of women become bisexual. This happens whether they fulfill the top or bottom role. I have often wondered why this process inevitably takes place and what drives women to change their sexual preference far easier than most men would do.

We need to look at the needs of both a submissive and dominant to help me to help you see this more clearly too. When it comes to a dominant the need is to create a situation where another human being fulfills all your fantasies without complaining about it and gives you the control to exercise your right to get what you want at any given time. Dominants also have the need to care for another person and to take responsibility for that person (at least the good ones do). Submissives on the other hand need to be controlled. A submissive needs to serve in some form whether that is sexually or not. The submissive is the ultimate caregiver and will do anything to please the dominant who controls them within the set parameters. These parameters shift and a submissive and dominant become so set in the role of what they stand for that the lines of sexuality blur sometimes.

It becomes irrelevant to the submissive whether the dominant person that provides in all their needs is male or female. It also becomes more important to please that person and if it means having to pleasure a woman in order to please a male dominant, a lot of female submissives will go there. Bisexuality in many cases is a soft limit that is pushed by a large percentage of men. Why? What man does not have the fantasy of a two women kissing each other or performing intimate acts on each other?

Once the female submissive has overcome the shame and guilt of being submissive, the other conditioned responses bred by a society scared of sexuality falls away too. If a dominant person pushes her buttons well, she will submit to that person, whether they are male or female.