We all have boundaries that differ when we are in social, dating, love, marriage, business, or home situations. Your boundaries will be somewhat different in different circumstances but in this case we are talking about
personal boundaries. The boundaries you need when dealing with your friend, families, relationship, and spouses.
What is a boundary? A boundary is the amount of physical and emotional space that you need to distance you from other people without feeling "closed in" or "smothered" by someone else you are close too (either physically or emotionally). In school we used to measure this distance by putting our arms out straight, and with our eyes closed let 2 friends approach you. Both of them standing an equal distance in front on you, one foot to the right and the other, one foot to the left of you. With your eyes closed and your body relaxed they started one foot beyond the reach of your fingertips. In our class, our teacher played soothing music to keep the middle player calm and relaxed during the game. Each time the music stopped the other 2 children would take one small footstep forward towards the child holding her arms out. They continued this exercise until the child in the middle began to feel pressured and closed in and told them, stop. Whatever space that was left around the child was considered the amount of room she needed for her space.
What is a boundary? A boundary is the amount of physical and emotional space that you need to distance you from other people without feeling "closed in" or "smothered" by someone else you are close too (either physically or emotionally). In school we used to measure this distance by putting our arms out straight, and with our eyes closed let 2 friends approach you. Both of them standing an equal distance in front on you, one foot to the right and the other, one foot to the left of you. With your eyes closed and your body relaxed they started one foot beyond the reach of your fingertips. In our class, our teacher played soothing music to keep the middle player calm and relaxed during the game. Each time the music stopped the other 2 children would take one small footstep forward towards the child holding her arms out. They continued this exercise until the child in the middle began to feel pressured and closed in and told them, stop. Whatever space that was left around the child was considered the amount of room she needed for her space.
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- Boundaries, by Dr's Henry Cloud and John Townson When to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries every day, by Anne Katherine.
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