Red Flags for Relationships
Recently some friends of mine got together and discussed some red flags that should be addressed when dating someone new. Here are some things that should be big red flags waving at you to pay more attention to. ThenIf you are not at the top of his call list when he has news- good or bad. One boyfriend received an offer from a competing company and decided to take it. He did not tell his girlfriend until 4 days later. She was not a priority.
They want a relationship with you but at their terms. For example, do they want you to be available to do things with their family or friends, but when it comes down to your plans with your family or friends, they find excuses as to why they can not attend. This means that your personal relationships do not matter to him. It can happen once or twice if he has a valid reason, but each and every time something comes up- open your eyes !
If he keeps you a secret. If you are only with your boyfriend hanging out of his house or your house, you need to reconsider. You should be out doing stuff- even just going out to dinner every once and a while. Everyone's money is tight, but if it seems that he shuns you and keeps you hidden, you should re-examine the relationship.
A relationship should be give and take. You should not be surrendering everything you want to do, but both individuals should compromise some, where there is an issue that requires a compromise. If you are always the one changing your plans or doing something that you are not thrilled about doing and your partner is not changing anything, something needs to change. Chances are that you are trying to mold yourself to who this persons wants you to be and not being real with yourself and letting that person see the true you.
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