Men, Honesty Really Matters in Online Dating

You joined an online dating service because you want to find a woman you can chat with, like and even come to love and hopefully she wants the same thing you want, a friendship that could eventually blossom into love.

A lot of men and women, when they date, are on their best behavior in the initial stages of dating and do practically everything to minimize or hide flaws in their character and appearance, This is especially true online, so it absolutely pays to be honest in all your dealings with her.

Remember that Billy Joel song, I love you just the way you are? You do not want her to fall in love with your alter ego; but with the real you, If you lied in your profile, the first face to face meeting will remove all doubt that you are a lying flim flam artist who's likely to cheat or even threaten her safety, there is no need to be a phony and be someone you are not just to get a date. Lies will catch up with you.

It is quite common for men and women to lie in their online dating profile, If you aren't 6'5 with a six pack, don't claim to be, If you pick up trash for a living, don't claim to be a neurosurgeon with a seven figure income with multiple patents to your name. If you are 40 years of age going on 50, don't pretend or act like you're 25 because, besides looking ridiculous, it won't work.

Honesty does pay after all, consider that if you were honest in all your correspondence with her and it turns out that a lot of what she was saying (whether it was her appearance or background) was just hype and lies, it will be so much easier to break it off and make a clear break and find someone else who's not going to string you along.

Take stock of your past relationships, what went wrong? what went right? What made you really like her? What is it about your past girlfriend that you couldn't stand about her. Where did you go wrong?

Finally, once you have found the woman of your dreams, run over to the computer to cancel that membership to the online dating service, after all you have found the woman you want to be with and these services are only for those who are still on the market, searching for a partner which is no longer the case for you.