Tips for Parents: Talking to Your Teen About Sex

Discussion Tips for Parents of Teens, Preteens, and Children

There are some discussions in life we, as parents, would love to avoid. A discussion about sex or as our parents said, "the birds and the bees," is often one of them. Deciding on an appropriate age to talk about sex, how much information to share and how to approach the topic are things with which most parents struggle.

There are a few things that will help you in your approach to discussing sex with your teen or pre-teen. Keep these in mind when discussing this sensitive topic with your teen and you may find the discussion goes much more easily and smoothly than you thought possible. After all, the issue of sex is one that we cannot afford to shy away from.

Talking to your teen about sex: Understand your role.

First, understand your role. You are the parent, the one who, despite what your teen things is more knowledgeable about the topic. What you have to say about sex and whether you say anything at all will influence your teen's perception and understanding of the topic.

Do not underestimate your role. You have the opportunity to put the subject of sex in contact and define the parameters in which sex is acceptable and healthy. You are also responsible for helping your child understand why promiscuity and unprotected sex can be harmful.

Talking to your teen about sex: Timing is everything.

Second, choose the time for your discussion wisely. Pay attention to discussions and activities in your teen or pre-teen's life. Do not avoid questions or conversations that come up naturally. Often, your teenager will let you know how much information they need, already know, and can handle about sex at any given time.

You don't have to have the entire conversation at one time. In fact, it is probably best if you allow the conversation to take place naturally over time. Of course, there will come a point when you will have to address specific issues related to sex that may not come up in conversation, but pay attention to when your child is open and curious. This is when he or she is most likely to listen to you.

Talking to your teen about sex: Get real.