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How to Deal with Know-it-All Family Members

Firsthand Experience with Difficult People

By Crystal Ray, published Oct 15, 2008
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Most people can name at least one family member who seems to know it all. These are the family members that have all of the answers, even when questions are not asked, and they rarely hold the same opinion of whoever they encounter. These are the family members who cause blood pressure to rise and tongues to bleed. They are button-pushers who are not willing to consider that someone else might be right, even just once, and they are very difficult to deal with. Even the most basic of conversations can turn into a debate, but it is possible to deal with know-it-all family members without losing your cool and having to look for a place to hide the body. The following information provides ways to deal with know-it-all family members, and this information includes firsthand experience that really works.

Change the Subject


When know-it-all family members go off on a tangent about something that rubs you the wrong way, change the subject without responding in the way they want you to respond. If they know they cannot get a rise out of you they will continue until they do, but if you change the subject they will get the hint that you are not interested in debating.

Say it with a Smile


Sometimes it becomes necessary to use a little psychology when you have to deal with know-it-all family members. Those who think they know-it-all tend to take an opposite stand no matter the subject. For example, give typical know-it-all family members information on something you like and chances are they will tell you why they do not like it. Their lives usually hinge on the negative, but you can burst their pessimistic bubble if you respond with a smile. Begin agreeing with them and they will not know how to respond.

Avoid Sore Subjects


Takeaways
  • Know-it-all family members often have negative personalities and enjoy taking an opposite stance.
  • Kill them with kindness. It will not be necessary to hide the body!
  • Take away a reason to complain and they will not know what to do.
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That's my mother-in-law to a T! I usually try to sit on the other side of the table far, far, away from her and ignore her words. Thanks for this wonderful advice! :-)

Posted on 11/05/2008 at 3:11:41 PM

 
nice tips - especially with Thanksgiving around the corner....sigh....

Posted on 10/29/2008 at 7:10:49 PM

 
I know of many people who are complete know-it-alls. It drives me crazy. I can't be around such people on a regular basis or for lengthy periods of time. Sophie

Posted on 10/26/2008 at 9:10:19 AM

 
Thank You fer sharin' your personal experiences. Mizpah. ;-}}>

Posted on 10/21/2008 at 9:10:50 AM

 
I am afraid that we must be related to some of the same people! Great advice.

Posted on 10/17/2008 at 8:10:02 PM

 
I have learned to quick change subjects. Most of the time it works work a few minutes, lol! Have them in my family, my in-laws family.

Posted on 10/16/2008 at 3:10:15 PM

 
Great article and suggestions on how to deal with know it alls

Posted on 10/16/2008 at 2:10:34 PM

 
Yep. We all have those in the family. Great advice! Thanks.

Posted on 10/16/2008 at 1:10:19 PM

 
This article is priceless.... my family is full of know-it-all's.

Posted on 10/16/2008 at 12:10:53 PM

 
Great advice! We all know these types of difficult people. I find the best way to get their goat is to agree with everything they say (even if I don't really agree). It really irritates them when you won't take the bait! You can't argue with someone who won't argue back.

Posted on 10/16/2008 at 6:10:15 AM

 
Yep. I've got some of these. I've used all these tactics!

Posted on 10/15/2008 at 9:10:59 PM

 
Oh boy I have these. Thanks!

Posted on 10/15/2008 at 7:10:48 PM

 
Good for you! I have a younger in-law who disputes everything I say. I could repeat a statement she had made the day before and she would tell me it was wrong. I'm never around her that she doesn't try to pick a fight, and treats me with utter disrespect. I've bent over backwards trying to be good to her, and have always defended her to her husband, rather than put him in the middle. After many years of this, I've learned that my only defense is just to try to stay out of her way as much as possible.

Posted on 10/15/2008 at 5:10:37 PM

 
That was my in-laws. UGH!

Posted on 10/15/2008 at 4:10:52 PM

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