Growing into Relationships

Love is only the beginning of a relationship and after the initial period of romance, magic and perfection comes the hard work. If commitment follows, in order for a healthy relationship to progress, there needs to be understanding of necessary skills. Otherwise, what will result is either eventual divorce or a long, lifeless marriage. The secret key is choosing to grow and stay creative with each other, regardless of what the future brings, children, aging or any other factors.

KEEPING THINGS FRESH.
All relationships grow somewhat stale over time. It's inevitable.
But attitude is crucial in ensuring that romance, sexuality, communication, individual needs, parenting all receive the nurturing required. Relationships are like a garden. Without watering, feeding and tending, they will wither and die. It's that simple. There are two individuals in a marriage but also a third entity - the relationship itself - and that needs attention too.
Let's look at each area separately:

Romance - time spent together regularly as a couple is vital. Both partners need to foster the element of surprise, stay spontaneous, think of unusual outings, bring flowers, plan romantic dinners, take holidays away together, be best friends, compliment each other constantly.

Sexuality -experiment, have fun, never take each other for granted, be spontaneous in and out of the bedroom, feel sexy yourself and then share it, never pressure your partner into having sex, never reject
in an unkind way, stay faithful if that's the agreement, don't over-stress orgasm, combine sexuality with emotion and spirituality.

Communication -The key component of a positive relationship is the ability to speak openly and honestly about needs, feelings, issues, grievances and all other relevant points for discussion. There firstly has to be willingness on both sides for this free expression. Trust is required and lack of fear, and the surrender of ego. With good communication, all difficulties can be resolved; without it, even loving relationships will falter.