Why Boy Friends Are Harder to Find Than Boyfriends

It is very difficult for society to view platonic opposite-sex friendships as just platonic. And very often they are right. I don't care what anyone says, there is always an underlying attraction coming from at least one side of the friendship, even if the person never acts on it. After all, most guys don't want to be friends with unattractive girls, and vice versa.

For some reason, it is much easier to find guys to date and have romantic relationships with than it is to just find a guy to be friends with and nothing more. I think part of it is the social expectations placed on the relationship. Let's say a girl meets a guy in a public place and he asks for her phone number, she is going to assume he has a romantic interest in her. If he doesn't pursue anything romantic or sexual with her at some point, she is going to think he is strange. After all, who goes to the book store or coffee house to make friends? Friends are people we meet through school, or work or other situations that require our interaction. We don't simply decide to go out and make new "friends." We do go to bars and clubs, however, in hopes of finding someone we are attracted to and could possible have a romantic relationship with.

Some people thinks guys and girls can be just friends. And sometimes this is true. But there are many times when a guy and a girl accidentally cross the line, whether it be an impulsive act solely based on lust, which is then instantly regretted, or a drunken stupor. Then the friendship is ackward for a long time after. And many times the friendship is dissolved.