Coping with the Emotional Roller Coaster of a Multiple Pregnancy

Carrying twins is no easy task. You feel huge. You look at the cute pregnant women in the grocery store with a jealous eye and groan when you hear them complain about their little bulge and their "oh so terrible" backache. You wish you could tell them they haven't seen anything yet and to stop complaining. Don't worry, you're not alone, and those feelings are completely normal. In fact most of the emotions you are experiencing are completely normal.

The key is to not let those emotions get away with you. Try to concentrate on the moment. Enjoy being pregnant - as ridiculous as it may sound! Relish those ultrasound images and treasure those days of choosing nursery décor. It won't be long until you meet those two precious people you are carrying inside face to face. Get to know them now. Read to them, talk to them, play music for them. Studies have shown that these activities can actually stimulate brain development in your growing twins and can even help them to recognize your voice when they are born!

If you feel as though you need help, then ask for it. Don't try to go it alone. Talk to your doctor, your spouse, a loved one, or a friend. Sometimes talking is enough to relieve the stress for a while. Remember, there are no stupid questions. Read up on pregnancy in general and multiple births in particular. There are some wonderful books out there, like What to Expect When You're Expecting and Having Twins, which can give you reassuring information. The internet can also be a wonderful resource. Just remember that your doctor is the final authority. If you have questions about something you've read, be sure to ask your doctor.

Here are ten tips for escaping the emotional roller coaster of a multiple pregnancy:

- Make time to relax. Draw a bath; add some bubbles, a candle or two, and some soft music. Put a do not disturb sign on the door and give yourself at least half an hour.

- Meditate. Take some time alone to relax your mind or to pray. Try not to think about pregnancy, doctor's appointments, or choosing names. Clear your mind and rejuvenate.