Abusive Relationships Affect Everyone

A few years ago I used to be one of those woman being abused. I got away by the skin on my teeth. I hope that these words will bring strength to those who need it. Maybe someone will read this and learn from my mistake and through that awareness I have made a small change somewhere in someone's life.With that said believe me when I tell you that I am not passing judgment on anyone.

There are many of us out there who stay because we really believe that we can make them change or that things will get better believe me when I tell you that if they haven't they most likely won't. I don't need someone in my life to know that I am worth something or to love me. Nobody can determine do that except for you. I used to think that I needed someone to love me and I was right but I was looking in the wrong places. You have to love yourself first. When you begin to love yourself then you will know what is the way that others should love you as well. Meaning that if you would not hurt yourself because you love yourself than you will not allow someone else to hurt you to tell you that they love you. If you wouldn't do it to yourself then don't allow someone else to do it to you. I know some of you are thinking well I'm physically overpowered I don't have a choice. Wrong you always have a choice you may be overpowered by them physically but you don't have to let it continue on you have the choice to leave. When someone abuses you they don't respect you. To be honest they only have power over you because you gave it to them.

When you decide to leave stand your ground and do not go back. Actions speak louder than words. Don't say you going to leave and then stay because they promised that they will change. They are manipulating you again. It's another way to keep you they will be good for a few days or weeks until you make them hit you again. Yes you because you are always doing something to make them angry. You are the one to blame and they will always be sorry. Let me tell you I have heard it all. You staying will only fuel their sense of power over you and the idea that you truly can't live without them.