Foster Children Need Adoption

November National Adoption Awareness Month

By Lawrence Adams, published Nov 18, 2005
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Imagine you've been in foster care most or all of your life. Among all the other disappointments you've had to deal with, you've had no parents, you have been moved time and time again and few adult mentors were available to teach you what you need to know in order to live successfully on your own - like how to manage money, where to find a job and why you must never, ever give up.

Michael wants to "make it" - but the odds were stacked against the 18-year-old man.

The reason: he spent his formative years as a ward of the state, bouncing among more than a half-dozen foster homes.

"When you grow up like I did, you can't wait until you turn 18 and can get out of the system," said Michael, who was in foster care since age seven. "I thought I would just pack my bags and walk out and have my own life."

Each move a child experiences is another loss-of friends, school, and surroundings-and another rejection for the child. Without consistent moral guidance, without a positive self-image, and with no cause for hope, the child becomes a fertile soil for failure and hopelessness.

Nearly 75% of children experience more than one family foster home placement during their time in out of home care system

One out of every ten children in the current foster care system can expect foster care to be permanent care, given that they will spend more than seven years in the foster care system

Being raised by the state can be a ticket to a lifetime of struggle and failure for foster children, according to a new study by the Harvard Medical School and Casey Family Programs. Researchers found young adults are often released from foster care without important life skills - many are alone and adrift after foster care with little or no support from state caregivers.

The picture grows even bleaker as teens age and leave foster care - as all must, ready or not - at age eighteen.


Each year more than 20-25,000 youth reach their eighteenth birthday and age out of the foster care system, this means an end to ongoing support and guidance of caring adults -NFPA (National Foster Parent Association)

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Wonderful article Larry!! I was a foster parent for 17 years and I adopted 3 years ago now, two wonderful boys, siblings. People have a tendency to want to praise foster and adoptive parents, but as one, I don't want no praise for a couple reasons, one, the rewards I have recieved back from the many children who have touched my life is more rewarding than any parise I could ever recieve. Their strenght alone is amazing! And secondly, instead of the praise, I would rather everyone step up and do something to help these children as well before they are lost in the system!

Posted on 04/10/2008 at 8:04:14 PM

 
Wow. This is a VERY good article! My husband and I adopted two older boys and now we are looking for a girl. I wrote a story about the boys here on AC but, it's not as good as yours.

Posted on 12/17/2007 at 12:12:22 PM

 
i really wanna adopt a child and larry is making me really want to! i have a three bed room home one for me and my husband one for my biological daughter and one for my hopeful adoptive daughter, Marry!!!!

Posted on 07/23/2007 at 11:07:00 PM

 
I just wish to thank those who have taken the time to read this article and have given so much positive feedback...it is appreciated. These children need forever homes and the stumbling blocks the "system" puts up to prevent this must be eliminated.

Posted on 11/20/2005 at 3:11:00 PM

 
I have been doing volunteer work for Child Haven of Nevada for the past two years -- you are so right -- these children are truly fragile. You made so many good points. These children need so much more than a roof, food and clothes. I know Child Haven is working realy hard to find permanent homes for as many children as they can.

Posted on 11/20/2005 at 2:11:00 PM

 
Larry thanks for bringing to light what few people know about foster care and the affect it has on the children placed there....educating John Q Public is a start and funds need to be made available to foster care for programs to enrich the lives of these children...they are available in school...why not foster care...thanks again for a truly inspirational article..

Posted on 11/20/2005 at 9:11:00 AM

 
Very inspirational and well stated Larry!!! Your words have clout because you've lived through this very system (which apparently has not changed much over the years). It's high time society moves in a positive direction to reform this broken system and do what's in the best interest of the child.

Posted on 11/19/2005 at 11:11:00 PM

 
Larry knows what he is writing about! I appreciate what he has to say. Children need permanency, structure, guidance, and love, long after they leave foster care. Society agrees that children should be removed from abusive parents. Now we must agree on how to keep them safe and free from subsequent abuse. That means keeping them in the same home and teaching them how to suceed in life after foster care.

Posted on 11/19/2005 at 11:11:00 AM

 
Hey Mr.Larry, This is a great article and it really shows how children are affected and what they go through in the foster care system. Great, Great Work!!!

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 11:11:00 PM

 
Larry writes VERYy Well. Everyone shoUld read his article.

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 9:11:00 PM

 
Larry has hit it on the head! Foster children are many times moved again and again for absolutely no reason!!! We foster teens and it is great to see them flourish and develop and gain the self esteem they need. Too often they are sent back home to resort to the way it use to be due to budget cuts. Sad but true!! We have had kids call and beg for us to do something and help them get back to our house. Our hands are tied. We remind them of their worth and that wel ove them and they must keep going on and try to be successful. With no tools it is so sad. Our foster teens do so well...because we Care!

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 8:11:00 PM

 
I so strongly agree with Larry's comments - tomorrow morning at 10:30 I will be in court - on National Adoption Day - adoption a 13 yr old girl, 9 year old girl and 3 year old boy. We've fought for over three years to get these adoptions completed. The system makes it very difficult to adopt hard to place children - in fact they took one away from (the bio-sib of the two girls I am adopting) because he was difficult - even though I was doing a good job with him and he was well loved. Larry, thanks for speaking out - these kids need families and despite the obstacles to adoption (and high cost) it's rewards are many. Especially the joy in their faces when they hear it is going to be final !

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 8:11:00 PM

 
Larry, I enjoyed reading your article. As a former foster parent and finally an adoptive mother of 3 severely abused children, I can tell you without a doubt that what Larry says is right on the mark. Please open your hearts, your homes to these children. They need love, guidance and care to grow into healthy adults.

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 6:11:00 PM

 
Great article Larry.

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 4:11:00 PM

 
Very eloquent article on a very, very touchy subject. I think articles such as this will be helpful to the cause.

Posted on 11/18/2005 at 4:11:00 PM

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