The Ultimate Guide to GOWF (Going Out While Fat)

First and foremost let's be reasonable. Men generally prefer a woman who is not fat. This includes all of you ladies who would otherwise describe yourselves as: voluptuous, curvy, thick, full-figured, plus-size, and big boned. I have to put my disclaimer out there, not ALL men prefer slim women, however, you aren't as desirable to "cream of the crop" types of men if you are indeed obese. Some men might find us attractive behind closed doors, but most of the time, we end up either the honey under the sheets or with a fat guy. If you are like me, you might like guys who aren't fat or have that teddy bear quality. I prefer slim guys. Hey, lots of slim girls date and even marry our chubby counterparts, but if we happen to marry a slim guy, he might spend most of his time trying to get us to lose the weight. Now, if you find yourself in this category and you plan on patronizing any kind of bar or night club, or lounge (not including those only catering to big women or places that are predominantly Black) these are the guidelines you should follow.

1. Keep the size of the group of women you go out with small. Don't go with a bunch of girls, you will get lost in the shuffle.

2. Never go out with a woman of the same race. Doesn't matter what she looks like, if she is thinner than you, she will get more attention and "play". It's that simple. If she happens to be cuter than you in the face AND thinner than you, well you can just forget about getting any attention from the opposite sex when you are in her company. See, men a clubs/bars tend to put women in categories based on their race while on the prowl. If they see two women together, and they are BOTH black or of the same race they will categorize them as "two black girls or those two asian girls" . He then will proceed to pick the most attractive of the two. The thin one will get picked hands down (unless he is a chubby chaser). Try to go out with a girlfriend who is of a different race. Think about it. If you are Asian and thick and she is Black and thin..you WILL NOT attract the same kind of man. Therefore, there is no competition and if no man asks you to dance well, you can't blame it on that. :)