The Spectrum of Love

There is a "Spectrum of Sex" which at one end is "hooking up" and at the other end is the absolute opposite - abstinence. And in our world there is an abundance of both issues. The pushing of abstinence until marriage is being pushed strongly by the religious groups. Even some non-religious organizations are pushing the no-sex rule. And, there is really no organization backing the "hooking up" or, excuse the usage, looseness of sex. The latter is just being done, but the abundance of the non-abstinence is a true underground revolution.

But, the question is, which one is right? Or better yet, which one is healthy for the existence of True Love? The answers are truly based on an individual level. The notion of waiting till marriage is derived from the various religions. Saving yourself for "the one", expressing your love by withholding natural desires until you meet the person that you will spend your entire life with. But, with divorce rates soaring through the roof, is this really working? Could it be that the yearning to give in to the desires of the flesh actually lowering the standards of finding your true love, that people are "jumping the gun" in order to get "jumped". Could the yearning for the intimacy between two people cause someone to make a rash decision?

I believe that the answer depends on the individual, and the reasons why they are waiting until marriage. If they are doing so because their parents expect them to, than I believe that subconsciously they will rush to get to the alter, or that the pledge they made will not last. If an individual is waiting until marriage because of strong religious or personal beliefs, than I feel that their intentions are true to the cause, and they will truly wait until they find that true love they've been waiting for.