Toddler's Family Kicked Off Plane Following Temper Tantrum

By Melissa W, published Jan 25, 2007
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Most people who have flown have likely encountered, at some point, a screaming or crying child on a plane. Some passengers may express annoyance and frustration while others breathe a sigh of relief because their child is sitting quietly beside them. A few who can relate because they have been there and done that may even attempt to lend a helping hand to the frazzled parent. In most cases, passengers have had to, in one way or another, deal with the screaming child. Air Tran recently decided to handle things a little bit differently and their decision to remove a three year old girl and her family from a plane because she was throwing a tantrum has sparked some controversy.

Julie and Gerry Kulesza and their daughter Elly were scheduled to return to their home in Boston on January 14th following a trip to Fort Meyers, Florida. Reportedly, when the family boarded the plane in Florida, their daughter got upset and refused to be strapped into her seat. Judy Graham-Weaver, spokesperson for the airline, reported that the child was "climbing under the seat, hitting the parents, and refusing to sit in her seat." The incident continued for fifteen minutes past the scheduled departure time and at that point, the crew and other airline personnel decided that the family needed to get off the flight so that it could continue as scheduled.

The child's parents claim that they did not have enough time to calm their child down. Julie Kulesza said, "We weren't given an opportunity to hold her, console her, or anything." The parents have also stated that their request to have their daughter sit in her mother's lap was denied. The airline reports that they denied the request due to FAA regulations which require all passengers over the age of two to be in their own seat and wearing a seatbelt when the plane takes off.

Air Tran refunded the cost of the family's tickets and offered to put them on another flight within 24 hours. They also offered to provide them with three round trip tickets that could be used anywhere the airline flies. The family refused the free tickets and stated that they would never fly with Air Tran again.

Toddler's Family Kicked Off Plane Following Temper Tantrum

A toddler and her family were recently kicked of an Air Tran flight after she threw a tantrum before take off.

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Did You Know?
Air Tran cited FAA regulations as a reason for booting a three year old and her family from their flight.
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Thank you to the stewardess. The kids blabbing might have been music to the mother's ears but not necessarily to others. The last thing people want to hear is another persons kid sniveling and having a fit, or even incessant talking. People are paying money for a nice trip, not to hear an out-of-control brat screaming and acting up. Some travelers are tired or very nervous. I remember coming home from a business trip and having to listen to this kid behind me the whole way home. It was a total nightmare. Just because people don't want to hear doesn't make them kid haters.

Posted on 07/12/2007 at 7:07:00 PM

 
Safety first! Disturbing the peace is still disturbing the peace, whether it's on a plane or outdoors. Parents are responsible for their young children's behavior, and if a parent can't get their child to settle down & behave, then they SHOULD be made to leave. The other passengers right to peace and quiet takes precedence over a minority of one's "right" to throw a fit and the parent's indifference to their child's adverse conduct.

Posted on 07/12/2007 at 3:07:00 PM

 
What if you were a busines person on that plane that had to get to an important meeting? for that person, missing a connecting flight means their job. people should not have to lose their job over a screaming kid. and i am a pilot and Federal Aviation Regulations part 91.107 states, "a person may be held by an adult who is occupying an approved seat or berth, provided that the person being held has not reached his or her second birthday and does not occupy or use any restraining device." AirTran had a right to do what they did.

Posted on 04/07/2007 at 8:04:00 AM

 
I'm not going to read all 41 other comments... but I did want to say that flying is not a divine right. I probably would have escorted that family off the plane my damn self had I been there as another passenger...

Posted on 02/10/2007 at 3:02:00 AM

 
HeatherB-Yes, calling the child a "brat" certainly lacks any form of compassion or decency.

Posted on 02/02/2007 at 6:02:00 PM

 
I do agree with you HeatherB, and I did comment on ear problems in one of my replies to one of the articles on this topic. I actually sit in pain when we fly due to ear problems, and I am so glad my dd has never had an ear infection in her life. I recall my ENT recommending I not fly (when I was a child) due to my problems. Sometimes you just have to drive rather than fly.

Posted on 02/02/2007 at 6:02:00 PM

 
The Airtran people, however, could have handled the situation better, just in the way they spoke to the family. They gave one reason, then later changed it. It was ambiguous. But the blame is on the parents. I am sure they were trying to console her but they should have just took her off the plane, which she shouldn't have been on after her ear surgery anyway. In the midst of all of this I feel terrible for that little girl. Everyone is talking about what a brat she is, and she's barely even old enough to understand the word. I've seen horrible things said about her from people who don't even know the whole story and have never met her. It's a real shame. The 120 people got to their destinations, but a little girl is being bashed for crying over an painful ear infection.

Posted on 02/02/2007 at 2:02:00 AM

 
I think this is entirely the parent's faults. Expecting a three year old, a toddler with a very limited understanding of the world and very little self-control just by the very nature of her age, to sit quietly on a plane for 3 hours while her ears ached so terribly and then expect her to cooperatively get into her seat and buckle it to repeat the painful process again is just absolutely ridiculous. They shouldn't have been flying at all. It's not about controlling the kid; it's about the fact that the child was probably in pain, and she needed some compassion. I put my kid in his carseat kicking and screaming because it's safe, and I wouldn't let him make a plane be 15 minutes late.

Posted on 02/02/2007 at 2:02:00 AM

 
T.H. Pankey- Yes, and it seems much of the judgment does come from adults who aren't even parents. I personally would have sat my dd in the seat, and if that was impossible gotten off (but I'd really try to get her in the seat, and we're against restraining-we didn't even use our crib. But I wouldn't have wanted an entire plane full of people staring at me since I prefer to remain rather anonymous.

Posted on 02/01/2007 at 2:02:00 PM

 
Being a parent of a child that age many years ago, I can relate. Hard for me to judge either way, though, since I wasn't there to personally draw some conclusion.

Posted on 01/28/2007 at 8:01:00 PM

 
My toddler has cried on occasion when having to sit and be buckled in on the plane. (never in the car, interestingly). We do "force" her in that case, but I don't feel the slightest bit guilty over it because she is held a lot (read my article on strollers) and carried all the time. I unfortunately know of parents who are lenient with seatbelt use too.

Posted on 01/27/2007 at 12:01:00 PM

 
Rebecca - thanks for sharing what you saw on the news brief. I have a toddler of my own, so I know that parenting is not an easy task, but I think it's important to try to teach them manners and respect early on. Sharon - I really liked what you had to say about "control" vs. "respect." It's definitely food for thought. From what Rebecca posted, it sounds like there may have been more issues than an ear infection for this family.

Posted on 01/27/2007 at 8:01:00 AM

 
As a passenger on airplanes and as a grandmotherly aged empty nester, I understand the dismay of airline employees and their other customers. But,I can't help but wonder where the solution lies. Parents today seem to be under a microscope regarding discipline and I have seen nothing (besides that Nanny show) that will help parents understand how to control without interfering with their child's God-given right of free agency. Great article Melissa - should get the community searching for solutions!

Posted on 01/27/2007 at 7:01:00 AM

 
How would they know your daughter was 2-1/2 and then force you to hold her? Did they assume she was over 2 because you bought a seat? Some people just like the space an extra seat gives them. So is the airline's flawed logic, you don't have to buy a seat if your kid's under 2, but if you do buy a seat (even if they're under 2, they are required to sit in it on takeoff and landing? If you don't buy a seat and their under 2 will let you hold them? I have no idea why the rules are so ambigous. We would buy the seat anyway because my husband is pretty muscular. I got stuck in the middle seat 6 months pregnant on a cross country flight because the lady in the aisle seat fell asleep. I couldn't fit over her and didn't want to wake her, so I had to sit and worry about the possibility of blood clots the entire time. I swear i should only fly first class.

Posted on 01/26/2007 at 7:01:00 PM

 
I ended up holding her anyway when the "stewardess" wasn't looking. Don't judge the parents. You don't know what you would do in this situation. It's easy to sit back and act like the parents aren't doing their job (especially if you don't have children of your own)when they might be doing all they could. I think it would have upset me if I was booted from a plane for this reason, but they did receive compensation so in my opinion the matter was even after that. It would be wrong if they weren't given another flight, but they were.

Posted on 01/26/2007 at 6:01:00 PM

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