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Fathers DO Have Rights Too

Child Support and Fathers Rights

By Demetria Haller, published Feb 02, 2007
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This society we live in today , in most cases, gives the up-most consideration to the mother's of children. What about the father's? Day after day and year after year these fathers are forced to pay child support. What do they get in return? Nothing, in alot of cases. These father's go without seeing their children for weeks , months and ,yes, sometimes even years. They are not consulted when their children go to the doctor , do good or bad in school , have an emergency situation or for any other reason. Fathers DO have rights too!

Children need their fathers in their lives, just as much as they need their mothers. No doubt , there are some true "dead-beat dads" out there though it is safe to venture that most of them DO want to be a part of their children's lives. Mother's have a tendency to divorce the father and then divorce the children from the father as well. This is not fair to the fathers and is most certainly unfair to the children.

Here are some statistics that will rock your world. The 2000 ACFC Child Support Survey Reports Have the Following information. (http://www.facenj.org/stats/cs/ACFC-CS.HTM)

-- 9.5 % of child support payers are satisfied with the amount of time they spend with their children, 90.5 % are not satisfied.
-- 82.0 % of child support payers have experienced access and visitation denial; 18.0 % have not
-- Of the 82.0 % that have experienced access and visitation denial, in 17.7 % of cases, the court did something to enforce visitation; in 82.3 % of cases, the court did not do anything to enforce visitation.
Now , Granted Not all of these statistics are Fathers yet these are some pretty scary numbers. In most cases it is the father that is denied visitation and parenting rights with their children. How is this doing any good for the children?

Are you liking Statistics? Because I have a few more for you. These numbers are a little older than the ones above but they are specific to fathers. Mens Rights On line gathered these numbers from the US Census Bureau report. (http://www.mens-rights.net/law/support.htm)

Takeaways
  • Fathers have the right to be an active parent in their children's lives.
  • Father's account for the highest percentage of PAID child support.
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Wonderful article, Demetria. I am a father with joint legal custody and visitation with my two children. The system as it stands is severely broken, but could easily be repaired if the 'default' position were Joint Custody across the board, and then if one parent can prove the other incompetent, then so be it. My advice to anyone is get the best lawyer you can BEFORE a divorce. Trust me, it will be well worth the expense.

Posted on 10/10/2007 at 10:10:00 AM

 
Father's Rights???? Yeah, right..how about a father if that's what you could call him that DOES NOT pay support (gets paid under the table, no taxes for the last 7 years). Was ordered a year ago, made a couple of payments, not through the state mind you wanted all by hand so he wouldn't need to be accountable.. and for months now nada. Come down to Florida PAL is abundant thanks to incompetent, dope laden Judges..Father's are given ALL their rights. This father has not paid a dime in medical nor dental although the little girl is on daily medication. Oh, wait..why should he the mother and the grandparents are doing it ALL FOR HIM! No wait, anything the grandparents do OUT OF LOVE for the child is considered a gift and not reimbursed whatsoever. Nice laws. Visitation? Oh heck yes, every other weekend. Does he call the little girl during the week? Heck no. Does he care she needed therapy for Amblyopia? Heck no..Grandfather will bust his butt in o.t. to make sure our granddaughter

Posted on 09/16/2007 at 6:09:00 PM

 
I am the father of a four year old girl and yes, I pay chld support, $300+ per month. I get to see my every other weekend, birthdays, holidays, and vacations. That is about 20% of her time until she is 18. Let me tell you, it's not enough, niether is my income. If it wasn't for my G.I. Bill money for college coming in every month, I would be living in the streets and not be able to see my daughter. Mom does a good job of "controlling" her too, making most of the decisions without my consent, except for taking her to the dentist. The court didn't seem to care that she has three cavities and one extraction because her tooth was rotting from the inside out. If it wasn't for her gums developing an abcess and me brushing her teeth when I'm supposed to I would have never known. And if mom found it first, watch out child neglect on my part. Oh well, at least I get to see my daughter.

Posted on 08/11/2007 at 2:08:00 PM

 
I am the father of a son who pays $400 a month in child support (which he can't afford), is denied the right to see his daughter and she won't (he's told) speak to him when he calls on the phone. I don't think she even knows he exists. As grandparents, we have seen her once when she was a baby an that is it. There has to be something (as grandparents) we can do, but maybe that is just a pipe-dream. It is a sad state of affairs. Thanks for letting me vent. Randy

Posted on 08/10/2007 at 7:08:00 AM

 
I agree with you Demetria. Fathers do have rights. It's sad to see so many of them denied access, but still forced to pay child support. It's a selfish system. Sophie

Posted on 07/25/2007 at 12:07:00 PM

 
I am a proud Father of a 14 year old daughter. My ex and I have been divorced for over 3 years now and she wanted a new 2003 Tahoe in lieu of child support. My original support would have been $189 per month but the Tahoe payment was $500.00. In the original disalusion agreement it states that all payments were to go towards child support. For the 7 years my child was to be a minor I would have only had to pay $15,808.00. With NO court order I paid over $20,400.00 in less than 3 years so I decided to tell my ex that I'm done paying for the Tahoe and that if she wanted it so bad she can now pay for it. Well her lawyer sent me papers stating that she wanted to fight for FULL custody of my daughter! I had my daughter for 3 months at a time while she had her the other 3 months. We home schooled. Anyway I was supposed to have my daughter from December through February. In December my daughter spoke with the Judge and told her that she wanted to keep everything the same. On Januar

Posted on 06/12/2007 at 11:06:00 AM

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