5. Practice forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes. This goes without saying. What sets people apart however, is how they react when it's somebody else making the mistake. The sad fact is, most of us keep a little ledger going in our heads. We know every mistake our partner has every made, and this little ledger seems to suddenly magically appear whenever they say something we don't like. We can't control our every thought. We can however control what we say or do when those thoughts happen. Forgiveness is remembering what they've done wrong, but not bringing it up again when they've done something new that upsets us.
6. Touch them. From the moment of conception, we are needy creatures. Every single one of us. And one of these needs is to know in our hearts that someone truly cares about us. As children, we know our mothers love and care about us because they take care of us. The kiss our boo-boos and sympathize when we have set-backs. And they touch us. Whether it be kisses or hugs or tussling our hair. A mother's touch is what shows us that she truly cares. We never outgrow this need. But we do outgrow the need for this sort of affection to come from our mothers. Later in life, we turn instead to our boyfriends or girl friends or wives or husbands, for this sort of validation .Unfortunately, we live in a busy world that leaves little time for non-sexual intimacy. As with most things in a relationship, you'll most likely find that to get what you want, you have to give something of yourself. Touching isn't hard. It's easy. And not only that, it's a two-way street. It's as much fun to get as it is to give. There's no good reason to forgo a hug when seeing your loved one return from work. Or from brushing their cheek with your fingertips in the kitchen. Or holding their hand at a movie. There's no good reason to stop kissing for no reason, or to stop holding someone you love just because. Touch them. They'll feel it, and you will too.
The six things I've listed above can make you a better partner by helping you avoid some of the things that make them not like you. They can also help make you a better person to be with by helping to jump over some of the roadblocks to closeness and by removing the hindrances to intimacy. Doing any of these things will not only make your husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend happier, they'll make you happier too. And isn't that what we all want in the end?
6. Touch them. From the moment of conception, we are needy creatures. Every single one of us. And one of these needs is to know in our hearts that someone truly cares about us. As children, we know our mothers love and care about us because they take care of us. The kiss our boo-boos and sympathize when we have set-backs. And they touch us. Whether it be kisses or hugs or tussling our hair. A mother's touch is what shows us that she truly cares. We never outgrow this need. But we do outgrow the need for this sort of affection to come from our mothers. Later in life, we turn instead to our boyfriends or girl friends or wives or husbands, for this sort of validation .Unfortunately, we live in a busy world that leaves little time for non-sexual intimacy. As with most things in a relationship, you'll most likely find that to get what you want, you have to give something of yourself. Touching isn't hard. It's easy. And not only that, it's a two-way street. It's as much fun to get as it is to give. There's no good reason to forgo a hug when seeing your loved one return from work. Or from brushing their cheek with your fingertips in the kitchen. Or holding their hand at a movie. There's no good reason to stop kissing for no reason, or to stop holding someone you love just because. Touch them. They'll feel it, and you will too.
The six things I've listed above can make you a better partner by helping you avoid some of the things that make them not like you. They can also help make you a better person to be with by helping to jump over some of the roadblocks to closeness and by removing the hindrances to intimacy. Doing any of these things will not only make your husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend happier, they'll make you happier too. And isn't that what we all want in the end?
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