How to Host a Successful Playdate

Many child development experts have asserted that "Play is the work of childhood". In fact, the United Nations has named play as one of the basic human rights of childhood. Playdates are important in your child's development of social skills, and in your development of a social support network. Hosting your first playdate can be a daunting task. Who to invite? When? How much planning is needed? I host a weekly playdate at my home for a local mother's group and their toddlers and would like to offer some suggestions for making your playdate a success.

Who to invite

It is probably more important to limit the number of children at your playdate, than to be overly concerned with who you invite. Too many children will lead to a crowded space which will increase the chances of fighting over toys and space and may push your noise level up. I find that 4 or 5 seems to be the magic number. This allows for enough of a group to provide ample socialization for the children without overwhelming them or creating a crowd too large to be accommodated in your home.

Concerns about the behavior of certain children will have to be handled carefully and tactfully. If you are worried about the way a certain child will behave at your playdate you have the right not to invite that child. Particularly if safety is your concern. However, remember to be respectful of different parenting styles and to acknowledge the different personality traits in our children. Exposing your children to a wide variety of people has tangible benefits such as increasing their tolerance of differences. Whenever possible, try to discuss concerns with the other parent and reach an agreement. As the hostess, you are also at liberty to establish rules for your home and your playdate.

Timing is everything!

Take into account nap times and feeding schedules. You are not likely to be able to accommodate everyone's schedule so plan based on your children's timetable. Also consider the limited attention span of toddlers and preschoolers. A playdate that lasts an hour and a half is enough time for children to warm up to each other, play, and then wind down with a snack before heading home.