Long Term Emotional Stress Some Adoptees Experience
TIPS FOR FRIENDS: It's fine to voice your concerns, but don't keep badgering the adoptee if they have made up their mind to be involved with their birth family. If you know the adoptive family it is easy to take their side in all of this ... but give the birth family a chance as well. If this is something important to your friend, then be a true friend and don't make them feel guilty. Just be a good friend and promise to be there for them if they need to talk or vent.This can be a great experience for everyone to share and grow in together if all parties are willing to try it. You won't know what is at the end of the rainbow if you never look up at the sky. If it turns out that the hurdles are too steep and can't be overcome, then at least you know that you gave it your best and tried.
I hope this advice has helped, and if anyone has any questions please feel free to ask!
- Genealogy
- Emotional stress
- Basic human rights
Comments
Excellent points on adoption from all sides.
Helpful suggestions :) Sheri
Your very personal story speaks eloquently in sound advice to us all. As one who adores studying history in all forms, I am sensitive to this issue & could not have expressed it any better. Write on :-)
It is a very delicate subject, you've done a great job!
This is a very well written article, and I personally believe no one should be offended because someone else wished to learn about their birth families, because you never know why someone is placed for adoption, sometimes it is really because the birth mother really does care about the child and knows that she will be unable to care for that child, this would especially be true in the case of young unwed teenage mothers, or anyone really who had made poor choices and ended up in a situation where they could not provide, it could even be due to illness anything.
And sometimes a birth mother has been forced to give up a baby due to circumstances beyond her control and wonders every day what has happened to their child.
Not knowing can be hard for both in my opinion.
A very insightful article... very well stated!! I'm sure this will be of great help to those in this situation, in understanding all sides.
such an important issue. Thank you for this.
This is a very frightening prospect for the adoptive parents, but I can see your angle.
Smokey
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02/23/2009
Great job with this! I got caught up in reading this.
here in quebec what they do is that if the adoptive child makes a request to find out about their biological parent, and the biological parent has made that request as well to find out about the child then the two are matched up, but both must request for it.
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