Do We Ever Stop Grieving the Loss of Our Loved Ones?
We have all lost someone. Be it our children, parents, grandparents, cousins, aunt, uncles, or friends, everyone has lost someone and has gone through the grieving process. But do we ever stop grieving? I think that we will always grieve for them in some way or another. Sure we go on with our lives because that is what we do and what they would want us to do but we will never stop missing or thinking of them. It is just too hard to go through life with someone you love and are very close to and then all of a sudden they're gone. So whether it be holidays, anniversary's of their death, their birthday or just a day when we're thinking of them we keep on grieving until the day we will are with them again.When I was twelve years old I lost my twenty two year old brother to murder. His wife would rather see him dead than let him divorce her so that's what she did. He was my big brother and I loved him so much. I never got a real chance to get to know him like I should have because I was so young. I remember the last words he said to me the night it happened. He had ordered pizza and right before and as he walked out the door to go to the bar he said I could have some of his pizza. I ate some of it that night and when we found out the next day he was dead I felt guilty for eating my brothers pizza. I know it might sounds silly but that's just the way I felt.
I am missing him so much these days. Last month was the anniversary of his death. January 31st, 1993 was the day it happened. At 3:15 am. His birthday is July 1st and he would have been 35 last July. He is the one who inspired me to write. He wrote poems and he drew and he was an awesome painter. He was supposed to go to art school before he died but sadly because of his wife it didn't happen. He would have been a great artist and writer.
- The Loss Of a Loved One
- The Grieving Process
- They Live on in Our Hearts
Comments
This is such a dreadful thing to have to go through, Sharon. I have lost a lot of relatives to death, most importantly, my Mum to cancer. But it does not really compare to losing family members to murder. I have found it easier to cope since writing about what I went through in some of my recent articles about terminal illnesses and funerals. But you're right. The pain does not completely go away.
Sophie
Yes it is very devastating when you lose a loved one. My brother was killed when I was 12 and he was 22. 9 months later my aunt and cousin were killed by my cousin's boyfriend. He was on drugs really bad and found out my cousin was going to break up with him because he was beating her. So he went over and started shooting and killed my aunt and her middle daughter. He also shot her oldest daughter but she survived. Her youngest son was only hit with the gun powder but he watched his mother and sister die. He was only 15 at the time. The cousin who was killed was turning 18 in 2 days. I was very close to both of them. My grandfather died a few months later and my grandmother died 5 months after he did. It was very hard losing them. I was especially close to my grandma. I know a lot of this contributed to my depression and anxiety but it was also inherited from my father. I'm so sorry you lost your sister. I read your article about your depression and anxiety. You really went through a l
Sharon, I lost my sister about 2 years ago to cancer. She was on drugs for many years and so we weren't close during that time. She finally got off the drugs and we got to have 2 Christmas's, and other holidays together before she died. It was the first time I ever lost someone that closely related to me and it was devastating.
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