Foster Care Comments

When someone finds out we are a foster home they always and typically say they could never do that. They could never love and child and then have to be forced to lose them. I can't either. I live in a constant state of deep sorrow and yet joy over each new placement.

When I lost Minh, a 13 month old baby girl I had raised since birth, it about did me in. I worried myself sick over her. I never once truly considered quitting. I don't understand anyone who says they can never do this. They say they love children too much and they couldn't do it and that's why it is confusing to me. If you love children to much then why don't you do it?

In my opinion, I am loving the children more than I love my feelings. I admit, if I didn't have the assurance of my God and the constant interaction from Him with each placement then I would be unable to do this. I wouldn't have the strength emotionally. However, I lean greatly and fully on God through each one.

Right now I have a little baby who is almost 3 months old. We picked her up at the hospital the day after I was bit by a brown recluse spider so I'll never forget that date! She may be gone from my arms in as little as 2 weeks. She is smiling at us, cooing and is very safe. Will she be safe when she leaves? Not only will she be leaving me, she will be leaving the state. I will greatly grieve. I have very strong, protective maternal feelings so this is always very difficult for me but I look up. I look straight up to God and get strength.

When Minh was taken.... I could not take another placement, not for 2 months and I turned down many calls. It was a very difficult time but I knew beyond doubt that God knew, He saw and He would complete the rest. I pray for her constantly and will never forget her the rest of my life. I will never forget any of these children.

I ask you to try to rethink about it when you meet a foster mom or dad... reconsider your comment... do you really and truly believe you could never be a foster parent or is it that your not willing to suffer from it? If you do indeed love and care for children enough to be hurt by losing them then maybe you are the perfect home for them.