How to Be the Perfect Wife

Striving to Be the Perfect Wife Can Be Rewarding

By SkyeDanzer, published Feb 25, 2007
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The perfect wife knows how to provide the harmonic balance within the family unit. She knows how to balance career, domestic chores, taking care of the children and support her husband emotionally. The perfect wife has many roles to fulfill and finds it both a challenge and rewarding. Not every woman wants to be the perfect wife. Many women will purposely try to be something different to establish their independence. Even those women that rebuff the idea of a perfect wife, read on. There are many deep emotional rewards for striving to be the perfect wife.

The perfect wife knows how to smile at those jokes that aren't really that funny. She manages a small laugh and doesn't remind her husband that he has told that joke before repeatedly. Without her husband knowing it, the perfect wife embraces these age old jokes over and over as if they were brand new. The perfect wife will know that one day her husband might be in a nursing home not able to even recognize who she is. It will be that day that these old jokes will be a memory that keeps her going daily to visit her wonderful husband.

The perfect wife finds the energy to pick up the piles of clothes, socks strewn about and the glasses that never make it back to the sink. Instead of clearing up after everyone and feeling like a maid, the perfect wife is proud of her home. It will drive her nuts to have the little messes here and there. She cleans up without a second thought as to who did it last time or why everyone around her can't seem to walk to the kitchen sink. She knows that one day the house will be childless and there won't be laughter as everyone is gathered around the TV watching a movie and forgetting their dishes. The perfect wife covets the memories that are being made in the household from an active family life.

Did You Know?
It is from the perfect wife that many of us could learn to cherish today and let yesterday's problems stay in the past.
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BULL SHIT!BULL SHIT!!!!BULL SHIT!!!!!!!! This is the Most ignorant thing I have ever read. I am NOT someones maid.I am an Independent AND happily married woman who will leave a mess in the Kitchen if I damn well feel like it. I will NOT spend a great deal of timein MY life trying to be the perfect anything. I am going to live it and enjoy it.The laundry/dishes/little messes can wait until another day as I have more important things to do like...uhhh....live. How about every family member does one chore, that way instead of the chores taking four hours, they will only take one hour becaue four people will working together to get the chores done.THAT is what should be expected of a family. If someone allows their family to lay around watching the television, while allowing their MOTHER to do everything for them, then they are not even NEAR the perfect mother/wife. They are setting a HORRIBLE example for their family,especially their daughters.

Posted on 06/22/2008 at 11:06:36 AM

 
I agree with the spirit of the article. It sounds very much like Proverbs 31:10-31 which can be quite intimidating and is only meant as an example of attitudes and behaviors worthy of emulating. And for those commenters who have asked-What about the husbands-I'm sure SkyeDancer would not give them a pass to treat their wives disrespectfully-but that would be another article. As for the Bible-it also does not let husband's off the hook. The primary instructions for husbands is that they love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. When husbands strive to work that out in daily life, wives will be treated like queens.

Posted on 05/17/2008 at 9:05:53 PM

 
Wow... what era do you live in? While it's all wonderful and good to be loving your husband so much that you would do anything to make him happy - it would only work out to be the 'perfect' marriage if he was the 'perfect' husband. After all, perfection goes together. Love is wonderful but I don't think it should be motivated by the fact that 'one day the only meals he will eat are through a straw' or that 'one day the bed will be empty'. What if the wife dies before him? My husband happens to be eight years younger than me... and yes, I earn more than him; so he isn't really out working late so that he can pay for his family's upkeep. I'm not saying he's not a good guy or that he doesn't deserve a good wife... just that there is no such thing as perfection, and there is no real reason to strive to achieve it.

Posted on 04/13/2008 at 12:04:13 AM

 
Wow... what era do you live in? While it's all wonderful and good to be loving your husband so much that you would do anything to make him happy - it would only work out to be the 'perfect' marriage if he was the 'perfect' husband. After all, perfection goes together. Love is wonderful but I don't think it should be motivated by the fact that 'one day the only meals he will eat are through a straw' or that 'one day the bed will be empty'. What if the wife dies before him? My husband happens to be eight years younger than me... and yes, I earn more than him; so he isn't really out working late so that he can pay for his family's upkeep. I'm not saying he's not a good guy or that he doesn't deserve a good wife... just that there is no such thing as perfection, and there is no real reason to strive to achieve it.

Posted on 04/13/2008 at 12:04:12 AM

 
Very good article! I think some people will/do take this article the wrong way. Generally, people want a reason to be upset/offended. I think this article shouldn't be taken at face value, but rather, for the underlying message. Kudos to you.

Posted on 03/20/2008 at 7:03:08 AM

 
What a great article! Thank you for sharing this!

Posted on 03/19/2008 at 12:03:45 PM

 
If these rules apply to the "perfect wife", then they should apply to the "perfect husband" too.

Posted on 03/18/2008 at 10:03:23 AM

 
Sometimes being the perfect wife isn't enough. Read the article I just published and you'll see why. Sometimes trying to be the perfect wife and doing all these things is only a cover up for something seriously going wrong at home.

Posted on 03/18/2008 at 10:03:55 AM

 
I am sorry, but I really agree with the general public on this one. I think everybody has to do their part.

Posted on 03/18/2008 at 10:03:42 AM

 
While I do believe today there is too much emphasis on making ourselves happy first and we tend to be selfish in nature, I also believe that marriage is more about partnership than this article tends to indicate. A lot of this stuff naturally occurs because you love the person you are with not because you are striving to be the perfect wife. I agree that we should always strive to better ourselves and be more giving, but I also know this is very hard if you have a spouse that never recognizes the effort you are putting out. We should strive to these things just as a man should strive to do these same things for their wife. But, there has to be balance as well. I know lots of women who put everything of themselves on the back burner for their kids and husbands while slowly losing their identity as a women of anything other than mother or wife. You have to remember to take time for yourself at least some or you will end up resenting or going insane. While I like the idea of the things yo

Posted on 03/16/2008 at 1:03:47 PM

 
I must join RedShikari in "hoping this was meant to be satirical..." I was raised to believe that a wife's biggest responsibility is to look after the wellbeing and happiness of her family,but life has taught me that it is impossible to accomplish any of this if I don't take care of my own needs first. If "independence" or anything else for that matter is sacrificed in the name of someone else's happiness, "the perfect wife" might find herself making everybody around her perfectly miserable. I enjoy cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my husband's needs, but only because he does the same for me. Love is selfish - or at least mine is - I don't think that I would be able to love and take care of my husband the way I do, if I did not see him doing the same for me day after day. I think that love and marriage work like mirrors, what you put in front of them is what you get.

Posted on 03/15/2008 at 12:03:56 PM

 
Some of these comments seem like the ones to which SkyeDanzer replied at http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/585965/

Posted on 03/14/2008 at 1:03:39 PM

 
hahaha!!! this is too much!!! not sure if this still exist in today's generation... but then... congratulations!!!!

Posted on 03/13/2008 at 2:03:26 PM

 
It's one thing to appreciate your husband and family for the memories and what they bring, but it's quite another to sacrifice your own wants and desires in the attempt to be "perfect." There is no such thing. I'm hoping this was meant to be satirical...

Posted on 03/13/2008 at 2:03:35 PM

 
As a stay at home, I do take pride in my home. My husband goes out and provides the family's income. However, when he comes home from work he still has to do his part and clean up after himself. I am a maid, a nanny, and a teacher but that does not mean that he can be a slob and never help with the children. I am REALLY hoping that you wrote this as something that was supposed to be funny.

Posted on 03/13/2008 at 2:03:10 PM

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