Five Reasons Why People Marry the Wrong Person

By V.C. Higuera, published Feb 26, 2007
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1. Anticipate Personality Change after the Wedding

A common mistake amid newlyweds is expecting the other person to change once the vows are taken. While most people do change for the better with time, it's unrealistic to expect instant behavior changes. If you can't stand smoking or poor hygiene, it wouldn't be wise to marry a person who possesses these habits. Besides, if a person does not recognize their annoying traits, change is an unlikely occurrence.

2. Re-Bound Relationship

Following a breakup, the quickest way to get over a relationship is to find a new one. The re-bound relationship has its advantages and disadvantages. The new goods is that these relationships can quickly lift a bad mood and bring a little sunshine back into your life. The bad news is that some people are so preoccupied with being a two-some that they fail to take time and heal. Starting a new relationship immediately following a breakup could mean marrying a person you barely know.

3. Looking for Happiness

Marriage is not a cure for depression or loneliness. Many singles believe that getting married will immediately eliminate a lingering black cloud. However, if you were unhappily single, you'll probably be unhappily married. Don't rely on another person to make you happy. Before looking for a mate, work on trying to make yourself happy. Discover new interests or volunteer with an organization. If necessary, consult a therapist.

4. Different Life Goals

For a marriage to be successful, both husband and wife must be on the same page. Before marriage, couples must discuss their long-term or future goals. Do you want children? Would you like to relocate? When goals disagree, couples eventually proceed in different directions. While dating, couples should have candid discussions. If possible, reach a compromise. However, when goals clash considerably, it's time for the couple to re-think the relationship.

5. Keeping True Self Hidden

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