My Husband Beats Me Up Every Morning

I Have to Live with It

Yes, it is true that my grey-headed, 65 year old husband beats me up every morning. There were a few days, very few days, he did not beat me up. I guess I got lucky. He has been beating me up for the entire length of our marriage. It actually started while we were dating but I didn't think it would continue after the wedding. I really thought I could change him.

After the wedding it got worse, much worse. Once he had that marriage license he beat me up more often. He laughs about it and seems so proud that he beats me up. I have lived with it and hoped it would stop. It has not stopped and I can't go on too much longer.

I probably should have done something sooner, but I did not know where to turn. Who to tell...a priest, friend, relative, stranger? Dr. Phil would have a field day with this one! He might even offer a free week stay at La Hacienda for treatment. Oprah would listen to our story in total disbelief. Saturday Night Live might even devote a sketch to this. I didn't have the courage to let anyone know what was going on inside my own home. I was embarrassed and afraid to tell. I am also afraid that if I don't stop this soon it will get worse if that is even possible. So here goes..................

You see, even at his age he likes to prove himself daily. He likes to show he is strong and can lift a full ½ barrel of beer with no problem. I guess that means he can beat me up with no problem. I can't do much about it, I've tried. I can't leave him for several reasons. First of all, we can't afford to split up. This is not a good time to try to sell this house that we recently bought. I don't want to get stuck living here and paying the bills alone, with no help from him. I use the dog as an excuse to stay....we have to work this out and stay together for the sake of the dog.

I know this isn't sounding good and you probably are asking - why? I'll tell you how he does it - how he beats me up and maybe you will have a better understanding of my dilemma.