Jealousy, How Far Should it Go?

Many think that it is cute and flattering when their other half shows signs of jealousy. They feel it shows how desirable they are to their partner, and it displays some sort of possessiveness that sparks a primitive delight in our hearts.

However, when does jealousy go too far and when is it actually justified? Countless men and women have been the targets of sick and unending jealousy and this can and will destroy relationships. Persons like this need help and they need to realize they have crossed the line.

Each couple needs to set boundaries of what is acceptable to them. Some will say flirting with others of the opposite sex is harmless and it can even be a turn on to see that their partner is arousing the interest of others. However, other couples might be completely against this and might get very upset if they catch their spouse flirting. Some couples even have open relationships! Communication is the key. You need to tell your boy/girlfriend what is acceptable to you and what is absolutely unacceptable.

What if the jealousy is justified? What if you actually suspect that your lover is cheating on you? What should you do? Should you confront them with the evidence, ignore the signs or even hire a private detective? Honestly, there are no general answers. Each person needs to decide what they would do. However, if you are going to accuse your partner of cheating, you should have substantial evidence.

One way to prevent jealousy is trying not to do the things that you know will arouse this dangerous feeling in your other half. If you know your girl friend doesn't like it when you mention how hot another woman is, don't do it! It is pure common sense, but you would be surprised at how many don't even try to use it.

Rampant and irrational jealousy is very derogatory and even disrespectful. A relationship is based in trust, and if the trust is gone whether for a good reason or not, how can it continue a smooth course? Love should be trusting until there is a real possibility that the trust has been broken.