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How to Prepare Your Child to Attend a New Baby's Birth

Preparing Children to Be Present at the Birth of a Sibling

By Angela England, published Mar 01, 2007
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With family-oriented births becoming a priority for more and more women, the number of older siblings attending the birth of their new baby brothers or sisters is increasing. It can be a wonderful experience to participate in the arrival of a new sibling but children who will be present at a birth should have some preparation ahead of time. Here are midwife, doctor, and family approved tips for how to prepare your older children to be present at the birth of a new sibling.

Look through some graphic pregnancy books with your children.

You want to look through some anatomy pregnancy books with your child - books with detailed pictures or drawings in them as opposed to pregnancy books with just a bunch of words. Show them where the baby is and what will happen for the baby to come out. If you do not prepare the child for the birthing process and what it entails the surprise might upset them. With this little bit of visual preparation however most children have a very favorable response to being present at their sibling's births.

Take your children to a gym or weight-lifting club.

Let them watch some of the hard-core body builders. What do you notice about the weight lifters? Sweat on their faces. Grimaces and "funny" facial expressions. Grunts and groans and other vocalizations. Explain to your children that the body builder is working very hard to lift that large weight and it makes him feel better to make those noises. Then explain to them that when the baby is born you will be working very hard too and might make similar loud noises and funny expressions. Later, when you are in labor and are "working very hard", they will understand better and not be surprised.

Push the couch across the floor.

How to Prepare Your Child to Attend a New Baby's Birth
How to Prepare Your Child to Attend a New Baby's Birth

Having my son present at the birth of his baby sister made the adjustment easier for him.

Credit: Angela England

Copyright: Angela England

Takeaways
  • Children who will be present at a birth should have some preparation ahead of time.
  • Prepare children for a birth experience by letting them see quality books and videos.
  • Your child will also be better prepared for his sibling's birth with some fun, interactive "games".
Did You Know?
You should ultimately allow your child the choice and realize their desire to attend the birth may change based on their age, sex and personality.
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It would definately be harder to make the children feel involved when dealing with a C-section situation - lots of reading and discussion. My mom always had presents for the older siblings "from the new baby" so the new baby was giving something - not just taking away time. :-)

Posted on 03/29/2007 at 4:03:00 PM

 
I had 3 of my 4 by c-section...at least Daddy was able to be there for 2 of the 3 c-sections (first husband lost it when i had to have unplanned c-section for our first child and the doc actually stood in the hall with him waiting for my parents to come help him gather himself before he started the c-section...all the while I was in full blown, hard labor and her 14 1/2 inch head was STUCK) the one v-back almost killed both of us (it was a planned c-section on the 17th, water broke on 9th just before midnight & my doc was on Christmas holiday, the on-call doc took hours getting there, almost didn't get there, they were calling other on-call docs when he finally showed up and he decided to let me go and used a suction cup. I went home the next day feeling really sore and couldn't breathe in deeply...10 days later I finally got over the PE and was re-released from the hospital.

Posted on 03/29/2007 at 12:03:00 PM

 
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed the article....and the pics! :-)

Posted on 03/23/2007 at 11:03:00 PM

 
Beautiful babies in your pic there! Great article.

Posted on 03/23/2007 at 8:03:00 PM

 
Great article!

Posted on 03/23/2007 at 6:03:00 AM

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