8 Simple Steps for Finding Mr. Right

Now and then, I see Sylvia Browne on the Montel Williams Show giving her psychically-inspired advice to desperate people. The most asked question is this: When will I meet a man? (or some variation of that question). It amazes me that so many women are so caught up in finding that perfect man, but since it seems to be on so many women's minds, I'm going to tell you how to find him with some simple guidelines.

1) Stop looking. Men seem to sense the desperation of a woman that is actively "on the hunt" for a man. This only fuels the fear of committment many people experience with the divorce rate skyrocketing.

2) List the qualities you want in a mate, and then work on becoming all those things yourself. If you want a partner that is physically fit, are you? If not, get off the couch and hit the treadmill. Want a partner with a sense of humor? Develop yours. Want someone honest? Hardworking? You get the idea. Chances are the "want list" you are working for is going to be very similar to the man's you want to attract.This is also a very good way to discover your list is unrealistic.

3) Get a life. No one wants a partner who's only interest in life is finding a relationship. You won't have anything to bring to that relationship if that is your only goal. What interests you? Do you like reading? Join a book club. Did you love tennis in college? Take it up again and join other players. Find those things that interest you, anything from bird watching to charity work and get out there and get involved! You won't ever find Mr. Right if you expect him to just show up in your living room. You have to be out there living life. And the best part of this bit of advice is, if you are pursuing things that you enjoy, you are likely to meet people who also enjoy the same things!