The Nice Guy's Guide to Getting the Girl

I was once bequeathed a small business card with three sentences scribbled on the back. These three sentences were the "Philosophies of Life," which were handed down through several years of senior members of my high school choir. Every year, it would be the responsibility of the holder of the card (always male) to stand in front of the group, read the philosophies, and hand them on to a worthy heir. The three philosophies were as follows:

"Jerks get dates."

"Nice guys finish last."

"AND... Girls are bad news."

There is a good chance you have heard all of these before and can probably find many situations where they ring true. Most of us come to accept the fact that typically girls are not actually bad news. However, the first two philosophies sometimes seem painfully accurate. Let the following suggestions help you help everyone forever change these patterns. By following some of the simplest tips on starting and prolonging romantic relationships, we will see good guys get dates, and nice guys pull ahead.

Flirting
Most guys who have a difficult time interacting with new girls get so overwhelmed and nervous about the whole situation, they forget what is really going on. Take a few deep breaths and consider that all you really have to do to be flirty is be friendly. I think I may have inherited flirtatious genes, but I will always contend that technically, most of my flirting is a willingness to be exceedingly friendly to the right strangers. However, there are many specific things you can do that will definitely send a more interested vibe.

One of my favorites is the nickname. Please do no misconstrue this and immediately start using a pet name or term of endearment like "Baby." I am talking about finding something to call your lady of interest that other people do not typically use. Make it something you use exclusively for her based around her name or something about her. This is just one way to show her that you are specifically interested in her, and make her feel special compared with other girls you may talk with.