Setting Limits and Communicating With the Passive Aggressive Man

Though it is difficult to be partners with a man who constantly frustrates you with his passive aggressive behavior, there are things you can do to break through his lack of involvement. When you begin to understand the problem and us a little straight talk, a passive aggressive man’s behavior can change. It does depend on the severity of the learned passive aggressive behavior but in most cases, positive changes can be made. That being said, you should know that there is no easy cure for the life long habits taken on by a passive aggressive man.

Dealing with someone who handles life’s problems in a passive aggressive way is much like dealing with a defiant teenager. You must be direct and straight to the point at all times. It is important to observe your own behaviors and weaknesses. You can bet the passive aggressive knows exactly how to push your buttons so, it’s important for you to not react and play his game. One major problem with dealing with a passive aggressive is unrealistic expectations as far as him changing. This might cause you to demand more than he can or is willing to give. You have to stay realistic in your expectations. Change what you can and learn to live with the rest if you must.

When setting limits you must begin with yourself. Set firm limits as far as what you will and will not tolerate and then stick to them. When communicating with the passive aggressive do not do it in a defensive way. Use messages that begin with “I” when expressing feelings of disappointment. Don’t protect him from your unhappy feelings but be sure to communicate those feelings to him in a way that will keep him from withdrawing further.