Effective Parenting: Tough Love

March 15, 2007 by
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Tough Love is a hard thing to do sometimes but is unfortunately, at one point or another, absolutely mandatory. It is the only way, on occasion, to express the seriousness of a situation. This article will take an in depth look at the reasons and need for this type of effective
parenting skill and offer the appropriate tough love punishments for common issues amongst children and teens today.

This is an educative guide to parents everywhere that will offer support and encouragement in their parenting decisions. Remember, parenting is a serious job that needs serious attention for the entire duration that you are a parent- it is not job a short task that ends when your children begin to walk away and talk back.

Effective Parenting: The Foundation of Discipline

There are some parents that believe that discipline is a bad word. They do not comprehend that children need to be taught what is appropriate; they need to experience the trial and error of life and personal choice. It is the parent's job to ensure the stability of this foundation and enforce punishment that is suitable for the crime. Without the disciplinary aspect of parenting, children will grow up believing that breaking the law is a matter of personal preference instead of what is right.

The best lessons in life, for most of the world's population, came with a severe penalty attached. I never got a spanking that I liked at the time, but all were necessary for my growth and education. Speaking of spanking, some parents are for this act and some against. I, myself, must admit that sometimes it is important to get the point across for the benefit of the child and it does seem to get the message across.

Without discipline children can not possibly understand the full affect that bad decisions have on their lives. If a child is raised without being punished for stealing or hurting another then they will grow up believing that this is okay, and when they are arrested for these actions it will come as a shock to them. Our job as parents is to get our children ready for the adult world. Learning the 'do's' and 'don'ts' are very important to the growth and development of every human being.

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I don't think that anyone is against discipline; it's just a matter of what is considered appropriate discipline. Many people are in favor of discipline that isn't physical, and I see nothing wrong with that. I kind of got to experience both trains of thought, as I would live for a couple of years with one parent (who spanked and switched and so forth) and then a few years with the other parent (who would never dream of doing that but who also did much more excruciating things for punishment like boxing up everything I owned but my textbooks and clothes and putting it all in the attic for a couple of weeks). To be honest, I think that kids can learn equally from physical and nonphysical punishment. Either one will get the point across, so I don't see the need to actually lay a hand on a kid. *shrug* But that's just my opinion.
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Posted on 04/22/2007 at 9:04:00 PM

Very well put Renee, and thank you.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 8:03:00 PM

I have to agree with D Armenta. Valid, important points here. The most important message about "tough love and effective parenting" being that children need to know the limits and know that the parents will follow through with consistent consequences.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 8:03:00 PM

Thank you D Armenta and Zane, I appreciate your comments sincerely. And D Armenta, very valid points you bring to the table. I see that my message is getting out there.... Zane, you are very perceptive. Thank you both!
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 4:03:00 PM

I am dissapointed that this has been downrated so much. It deserves better than a 3.0.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 4:03:00 PM

I thought this article had some very valid points. The bottom line is that the parent *must* be the one to teach the child the boundaries of good behavior. The parents must set good examples and be moral guides for their children--not their "buddies" or their fairy godparents. As for Ms. Brewington's comment, I can see reasoning with an older teen, but with a toddler? You cannot reason with the id, which is all toddlers have at that stage. In order to be able to reason, the child must first be aware of the feelings of others besides himself. Thank you for the article.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 4:03:00 PM

Thanks Pleasurebound and Charlotte! Parenting is a rewarding and most loving experience isn't it?
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 3:03:00 PM

Whoa, you stirred up some comments here. But that is good.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 3:03:00 PM

I must have been very lucky raising my wonderful grown responsible son. (Yes, I am a bit fond of him, lol) but I never did have to use tough love, or even grounding. There was one time he almost talked back to me, but he was right, I wasn't listening to him.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 3:03:00 PM

I did not say that everyone else is wrong... try reading a bit ok? If you see no blatant attacks on your part then you are either blind or don't know what that word means... and no that is not a dig but rather a mere observation. And, for the record, I do remember saying thank you all for your opinions which are also referred to as comments (in case you weren't aware) so yes, I know people have their own ideas and opinions-- but saying them once and moving on is polite, sticking around just to 'mock' 'scoff' and belittle other ways and methods other than your own is rude to say the very least. What I know IS based upon education, what's wrong with that? I never said you are ignorant so that is a lie, and I never suggested that any children you would have would grow up to be "fiends" either. That is a hostile tantrum yet again.
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Posted on 03/15/2007 at 2:03:00 PM

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