Stop Paying for Her : Avoid Being a Money Spender on a Date

Don't go out on "traditional" dates anymore! See, if you don't go out on "take her out to dinner" dates anymore, then you won't have to deal with paying for them. A lot of good research suggests that women think men, who are potential mates, fall into one of two categories. I call these "Lover" and "Provider". In a "traditional" boy-meets-girl situation, the girl makes a decision early on whether you're the type of guy that she should get physically involved with quickly, or if you're not the nicer type that would be glad to prove yourself to her by paying for lots of expensive dates, buying flowers.

A very common approach that men use is the old "Can I take you out sometime?" line. At first glance, it sounds innocent enough. It has the ring of "I'm a nice guy, and I'd like to take you to dinner so I have a chance to get to know you better" to it, right? Well, it may seem that way at first glance, but let's get a little deeper into what else you're saying when you ask a question like this one.

1. You're starting off the relationship right from the beginning by offering to buy something for her, and more importantly you're setting an expectation. In other words, when you do this, you're setting an expectation that you're going to do this from now on.

2. You're saying, "I feel like I need to use a bribe to get you to see me again". I'm sure that men have been bribing women with food and gifts since the dawn of our species. Does this sound far-fetched to you? Check out how our closest relatives, the chimps use food to persuade females to have sex with them. No, really.

3. Once you "take a woman out" and prove to her beyond the shadow of a doubt that you like to pay for things, you set a whole series of other subconscious expectations in place. Without going into detail, most of these other expectations will only lead her thinking of you in the "nice guy" category, and costing you time and money that you might as well have thrown down a rat hole.