Candace Bushnell Saved My Single Life!!!!

Every female owes it to herself to have a Sex and the City party with her girlfriends. Why? Because on those days when you delude yourself into believing that a diamond ring on your left hand will finally make you a worthy person ... it's time for a Carrie Bradshaw remedy. Spinster is out ... Sex and the City is in! A century ago women needed a man because there were few career options, they had no voting rights, could not own property, could not invest money, etc. Times have changed!

Our minds forget that we do not need a man to have a great career, buy a dream home, take luxury trips, or love ourselves and our lives. There are many tools in the world to make us our own best friends. Now I am not telling the single ladies out there to stay solo. What I am recommending is to enjoy your own company so you don't settle for the first guy who comes along. Having a boyfriend is not a life essential on par with food, oxygen, water, and other basic needs. Everyone deserves love ... the emotionally healthy kind .... and one that honors you as you honor him or her. This applies to the single men out there as well.

Where do you start loving yourself? In your own heart.

By age 25 we all have baggage ... the difference is whether it is carry on or truckloads that we don't need. Some of you may have known people who get into one bad relationship after another. The boyfriend or girlfriend many have changed but the fundamental dynamic remains the same. Why? I am not an expert but many who are have stated that there is a root cause whereby bad relationships are the symptom. Is this true? Hard to prove but worth addressing. Romance aside, bad relationship patterns can happen within platonic friendships where perhaps one person is always bailing the other out of trouble. The same kind of trouble even! What is going on? Probably a pattern that makes one gravitate to a certain personality to create a certain dynamic with. The answer may be complex or simple but what is - is what is.