Child Custody Advice: Secrets to a Less Stressful Visitation Process

Any parent who has been through the ordeal of child custody and visitation issues understands how many legal issues can be involved. Thankfully there are some ways to make visitation go more smoothly.

Be an adult.

Don't slander the other parent or say bad stuff about them. If the other parent is an awful person, eventually the child will see it on their own. Don't ruin the reputation other parent to the child even if it's true. The child has a right to have a relationship with the other parent even if it includes disappointment. The child will remember more that you said so, more than the fact the other parent might not be up to par.

Send the child with a fully stocked bag they can take with them.

Choose a bag that you don't mind loosing incase it doesn't come back. Pack enough clothes for each day, plus one extra just incase. Make sure each parent has a copy of medical coverage information. Have a medical supply bag with the clothes. Include non-prescription/prescription medication (children's liquid Tylenol or Motrin in properly sealed containers for younger children and unexpected fevers), a small first aid kid of sorts, chap stick, any necessary toiletry items (you can use the travel kind if you want or purchase another toothbrush, air brush, etc...just for the bag) they might need. Don't forget scrunchies, a thermometer, and nose bulb. For babies, put enough diapers for 2 days in the bag & spare bottle.

Also include, copy of immunization records (you can black out any important personal identifying information of the parent). I like to include a couple of small snacks as well as the transitional object (always have a spare one) and any other small toys the child wishes within reason.

Realize as the parent you are responsible for making sure your child has at least everything your child needs.