How to Plan a Family Reunion

While most family reunions are planned as times of fun and fellowship, the first real Fredrickson family reunion in 1988 was forced upon the family.

Kearney, NE contractor Paul Fredrickson said, "Dad and Uncle Bob for years and years and years talked about having a family reunion. Nobody ever did anything about it. So the first real family reunion was Dad's funeral. I thought, that's not the way to have a family reunion!

"Uncle Bob and I decided to start the family reunion, having it during good times and not during bad times."

Taking it upon himself, Paul with his wife Lorene, organized the first "good times" family reunion for 1991. "We tried to figure out a place that we thought everyone would enjoy," Paul said.

After visiting Estes Park in their search, Paul found a place which would house the family and reserved it. The first family reunion was a success with family arriving from Nebraska, Kansas, Minnesota, California, and Oregon. During the week the family ate, played, stayed together, and got to know one another.

With that first family reunion behind him, Paul immediately started looking for a location for the next family reunion two years away. He chose Jackson Hole. Most, but not all, of the original family made it along with some new faces.

But planning a family reunion for a lot of people isn't easy. "There's never a good time for everybody, and there's never a place that will satisfy everybody," Paul said. "You just pick a place and if it works, it works..."

He also learned over-scheduling is not a good idea, especially if the family reunion lasts for several days. "You don't want to plan too much for them," he said. "Leave some time for others to do things on their own."

For all the hassle of getting things organized and then trying to get a head count and deposits, Paul believes a family reunion is worth the effort. "I think it's worth it, but I think you can meet too often. Most people plan that as their major vacation for the year, and if every two years it's going to be a family reunion, sometimes it dips into some of the things they want to do and places they want to go.