Self Destruction: Ladies Are You Headed for Self Destruction?

"I got so drunk last night, when I woke this morning, there was this guy lying besides me, I did not even know his name."

Have you ever experienced this or know someone who has? If the answer is yes, you or someone you know sounds as if you may have a self-destructive behavior.

According to Michaele P. Dunlap a clinical psychologist, we are self-destructive when we eat poorly trying to keep our bodies too thin, when we overeat to obesity, when we gain weight and diet in endless cycle of self-deception and self-blame about our eating and our weight gain.

There are many titles for the next self-destructive behavior, self-inflicted violence, self-injury, self-harm, parasuicide, delicate cutting, self-abuse, self-multilation.

Broadly speaking, self-injury is the act of attempting to alter mood state by inflicting physical harm serious enough to cause tissue damage to one's body.

What is self-injurious behavior? The forms and severity of self-injury can vary, although the most commonly seen behavior is cutting, burning and head banging. Others forms of self-injurious behavior include: carving, biting, scratching, bruising, branding, hitting, marking, picking, pulling skin, burning/abrasions and hair.

Also according to Dr. Dunn, we are self-destructive if we are using drugs to control emotions, when we spend beyond our means, when we are sexual in ways that cause us to lose respect, when we keep ourselves in personal relationships that cause us to feel inferior, abused or taken advantage of.

We are self-destructive when we neglect our bodies and not give them rest and exercise, overworking, overexercising to please others or to make ourselves feel okay.

Everyday I find myself glued to CNN News and the tumultuous complexities and sadness of the late Anna Nicole Smith's life. It seems daily, another skeleton falls out of the closet or another roach crawls out of the wood work wanting a piece of the money action. This was a self -destructive person whose bad decisions may have been the reasons behind the mysterious death of her and her son Daniel.