How Honest Are You in Your Relationships?

I got to thinking today, yeah I know, that I was never really honest in my past relationships; nope, not even with my late husband. I'm not speaking of "cash register" honesty here. It's the whole honesty of feelings that I wish to address.

This is a pendulous topic; this honesty of our feelings, because feelings change. Not only do feelings change but the changes usually occur over a period of time. It's not like you wake up one day and decide that your spouse is totally getting on your nerves with his incessant propensity to spend too much money, or talk your head off about some topic with which you are the least bit interested.

For example, when my late husband (Michael) and I first started dating, I thought it was a great thing that he had no problem with talking about stuff; anything. I mean really, the man could go on and on and on about anything and everything. At first, in the new found relationship, I loved it! Then, over the years, it kind of became annoying. I think you get my drift. However, on occasion, I do miss it now.

It seems that all the new shiny stuff that attracts us to our significant others fades away and turns sour over time. When does that happen, and why? What I want to know is do we ever bring these things up with our better halves? Or do we just tuck them away, deep within and telling ourselves it's not that important - overlook it. These things can add up.

Yeah, I know I am way over analyzing this topic to death. It's something to write about; something to ponder I suppose. It is my hope that in my new relationship that I can remain honest with my feelings.

I do feel free, and comfortable, to discuss things with CC; things that go on in my head and heart. We have some pretty damned good conversations and it is liberating to be able to communicate with the one you love so openly without worry about planting resentment, dealing with hurt feelings, or fear of any sort of reverberation.

How about you? How honest have you been in your relationships?