Ten Things Not to Say at a Wedding

Between the excitement and festivity of the wedding celebration itself and the loose tongues that may develop after a wedding toast or two, people at a wedding can be very talkative. When they find themselves seated at a table with six or eight other people, guests often try to make conversation for the sake of conversation, to fill in the blanks between major events at the reception or while waiting for courses to be served or cleared. Whatever the reason for the chatter, a wedding is not necessarily a gathering of your own best friends who understand you or have learned to take you with a grain of salt. Before you go to a wedding it might help you and the folks you are going to sit with for you to review these ten things not to say at a wedding.

1. Why did they have both a priest and a minister on the altar? If there were two clergymen or women present undoubtedly it was by design and by agreement of the bride and groom. Calling attention to this nuance in the service may make others think that you feel like one of the clergymen was unnecessary. A sentence like this can inadvertently open the subject of religion, which like politics is always best left alone. Unless you have comments that are equally praiseworthy of both faiths represented this is a good example of one thing not to say at a wedding.

2. Do you think the caterer gave them other options? While your aim might be to just start a general conversation about catering or wedding meals in general, this question seems meant to imply that the caterer really should have steered the couple in a different direction. Without meaning to perhaps you have hinted at the fact that at least you would have been pleased if another meal option had appeared. Looking a gift horse in the mouth is never good form. Besides, if you are sharing a wedding celebration and being fed along the way, whatever arrives in front of you really should be appreciated.