What Went Wrong with Your Perfect Relationship?

Perhaps you thought to yourself, "I've finally met Mr. Right!" He's tall, dark and handsome. He's sweet and sexy; he doesn't come on too strong, but he's passionate enough to keep me turned on. He doesn't rush me, but always keeps my motor running. To top it all off, he wines and dines me, buys me gifts, and we have 'chemistry'!

Then one day things gradually start to change. He starts behaving badly. He doesn't visit as often. He hardly ever calls. He stops buying you gifts. He stops dating you. No longer does he listen to your small talk. In fact it appears he's lost interest in you altogether.

So, what happened? What went wrong with your perfect relationship? The more questions you ask, the less answers you get. The more you pry, the more he clams up. Suddenly, you're afraid. You're very afraid. Afraid of being alone. Afraid of being thrown back into the sea where you'll have to learn how to swim with the sharks. Worse, you don't want those sharks to eat you alive!

You begin to cling. You start behaving in ways that further drive a wedge between you. You try to make yourself more attractive to him. Yes, of course you know by now there's another woman, maybe even two or three. But they just can't mean as much to him as you do. They can't be as attractive as you are. After all you two are in love, you two have chemistry and he is Mr. Right.

Well, its time to wake up and smell the roses. Once his interest starts to wane, you should begin to realize, perhaps he's not the catch you thought he was. Maybe you became too attached too soon. Perhaps he was not Mr. Right after all. Let's face it, there was something not quite right about some of his mannerisms from the beginning. But you were too blinded by love to see it. You were too caught up in the moment. Too afraid of being without a man.

As the saying goes, perhaps he was not that into you. Oh sure, you were good for a few laughs for a little while. But now he's moved on.

So now what? Now that its over what are you going to do? What can you do to pick up the pieces of your life? First of all don't blame yourself. Its not your fault he threw away the good thing he could have had with you. Its his loss, not yours.