Do You Suffer from SAHGS? (Stay at Home Mom Guilt Syndrome)

It seems there is a disorder for everything today. Here's one you may suffer from without even knowing it - S.A.H.G.S. (Stay at Home Mom Guilt Syndrome).

I have a pretty severe case of SAHGS. It flared up at 5:10 this morning when my three year old daughter happily pranced into my bedroom. "Mommy, it's not morning-time yet, but sometimes we get up in the dark and eat candy...don't we?" "No, we don't...Jenna". It was too late. She'd snuck
 out of bed and devoured at least a half-dozen malted milk balls that I'd left on the counter last night following my own midnight binge.

She was flying high on sugar-frenzy and the sun hadn't even risen yet. By the time my husband and son woke up (three hours later) she'd colored on our walls, fed play-dough to the dog, spilled dog food all over our laundry room, smashed an egg on the counter, and single-handedly destroyed her bedroom and playroom.

By the time normal people were just pulling into a rush hour traffic jam, I was completely frazzled. I begged my husband, "can I please go to work for you? please, please please....". He is a police officer and I've never, ever envied his job. However, today was one of those days where I would have been thankful to trade two hyper-active preschoolers for a few gun-toting criminals.

He laughed. "Hang in there...I'll give you a hand when I get home, I promise." My horrible day continued. When my daughter crashed from her sugar high she cried hysterically (and for no apparent reason). "Mommy...I don't like spiders, they are soooooooo icky" she wailed. Mind you, there wasn't a spider in sight. She was completely losing it. My son (as always) followed suit. "Mommy...spiders...scary". He screamed.

After about three dozen nonsensical, hysterical outbursts later, I had one of my own. I called my husband at work. "I am losing it....I need chocolate, wine and cheetos...stop at the store and get all three...or else".

When my husband got home from work he handed me my vices and helped me put the kids to bed. As soon as the house was quiet, he offered to put away laundry and wash the dinner dishes. "No, I'll take care of it...just go ahead and relax".

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I'm also a stay at home mom and I have to say, even when I do get a few minutes to sit down, I'm thinking what I could be doing instead. I feel guilty as well whenever my hubby walks through the door and the house is a mess even after cleaning it three times that day alone. Diner is always done at the same time, but doesn't taste as great each time. A million things to keep a track of, oversalting food has become a trend. As a woman who keeps her home running, who takes great care of her children, and who's a devout wife, I gotta say, I don't get much credit. As a matter of fact, I get snide comments such as "I wish I could work from home". And of course I'll reply with "Your works pays, mine does not, you work 9-5 I work 24/7". No comparison. After all we sacrifice, such as our financial independence, smaller waist lines, and fulfilling resumes, I find it that being a stay at home mom does not carry much weight with those who have not walked a block in our shoes.

Posted on 06/20/2009 at 1:06:34 PM

This is great! :-) Makes me feel am not alone.

Posted on 04/20/2009 at 6:04:41 PM

Love this! You can work all day long and still have a wreck! You don't get anything to show for it till your kids are 25.

Posted on 09/14/2008 at 5:09:35 PM

I am right there with ya sister, after teaching for 10 years being home with my babies is such a pleasure but I can't seem to completlely enjoy it because of this nagging guilt. I do "clock out" after school hours, meaning NO housework, if there is a load in the dryer, it will wait until morning to be folded, dishes also wait, this gives me a little more structure then I just relax in the evening with my husband.

Posted on 10/04/2007 at 9:10:00 AM

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