The Prejudice Against Extended Nursing

Extended nursing is when a mother breastfeeds her baby past one year of age. This is neither irregular nor unhealthy, although many mothers in America are hesitant to do it. Perhaps it is our modern, western ideology that marginalizes women who choose to breastfeed for an extended
 amount of time. Mothers nurse their children for an extended time in other countries and have done so for centuries.

It doesn’t even make since to call nursing past one year “extended”. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that a mother breastfeed her child for at least one year. Note the operative phrase “at least”. Meanwhile, the World Health Organization recommends at least two years of breastfeeding! So why are women judged for nursing their toddlers? This notion that babies should be somehow trained to be independent and self-sufficient is a popular one in America. (ex: Cry It Out method)

While anyone with a modicum of education knows that breastfeeding is best for a baby, mothers are still treated like pariahs if it becomes known that they are still nursing their toddlers. These bigoted people are obviously ignorant to the fact that the bond between mother and nursling is incredibly strong and serious. Weaning can be psychologically devastating for both parties if it isn’t done at the right time. Also, children lose out on immunities if they are weaned early.

It really isn’t as strange as it sounds to the modern world: women have been doing this naturally since the dawn of the species. Perhaps it is something deeper than that. Why would people see this as a weird act if it has been scientifically proven to be advantageous to the child? No one is proposing that a woman breastfeeds until her children leave for college or anything. Maybe people are dealing with some subconscious psychosexual problems.

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In biblical times, children were weaned at about three years old, but that was just an average age. Some children wean themselves earlier; some later. While there are medical reasons not to nurse for a natural span of time, the current trend to opt out or not make the maximum effort (however painful, at times) often causes mothers to excuse themselves too easily, claiming inability. Many babies do wean early even when the mother wished to nurse longer. I believe, though, that many babies also sense the mother's discomfort or rejection-- often due to her own misconstrued ideas or shame about nursing). Such children wean earlier than they would have had they been allowed to relax and receive the soft, affirming experience so necessary and natural at this stage.

Posted on 07/20/2007 at 2:07:00 PM

G-d BLESS you for finally publishing an article on this! I have been trying to educate people-- one by one-- for years about this issue. Hopefully folks will finally begin choosing education and logic over thoughtless ignorance and what they believe to be tradition (really just the latest trend-- people's memory is so short). You are so right-- what do people think breasts were made for? Yes, they are pleasurable, but unless we have shamefully regressed into a society that can relate to nothing but women as objects for ogling, we cannot overlook the primary functions of species nurturing and propagating. I grew up in Nigeria, where I observed many children nursing up to the age of six-- and not because of low income or lack of access to solid food. Children will by nature gravitate to a position of assurance and comfort, and nursing provides great psychological security in this wonderful bonding experience. In biblical times, children were weaned at about three years old, but t

Posted on 07/20/2007 at 2:07:00 PM

Thank you for your comments. It's funny how people are suddenly offended by breasts when they are being used in the most natural, non-sexual way. However, we are a nation that supports a multi-billion dollar pornography industry and that doesn't seem to bother mainstream America so much. Do you know what offends me? Seeing weekend Dads take their sons into Hooters to watch the game. A woman nursing her baby in the corner of a restaurant? Never even occurs to me that she is doing something odd!

Posted on 12/31/2006 at 6:12:00 PM

Amen. Reminds me of the uproar a few months back for putting a breast and baby on the cover of Babytalk (or something closely named). One offended woman wrote in saying that breasts were "sexual" and she didnt want her husband and son seeing them. Its terrible the opinions we hold onto in America. Once I got my milk in, I realized that was what breasts were all about. Its just such a shame that people cant understand that. As with "long-term" nursing, I get so much enjoyment from nursing my daughter I dont even want to think about quitting. At the end of the day, its really nobody's business.

Posted on 12/31/2006 at 8:12:00 AM

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