Don't Tell Your Friends' Secrets
Stephanie La'Shell
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If a friend asks you to keep a secret....keep the secret!
I learned that the hard way. I lost a very dear friend of mine over something I thought was trivial and harmless. Trying to be funny, I let my friend's secret out as a joke, and I will regret it forever. 
Secrets are not supposed to be told. A friend telling you a secret is putting his or her trust in you. Even if you do not believe it should be kept secret or you think it will make a funny conversation at a party, do not tell anyone. You will not only lose that friend, but word will get around and you may lose other friends as well.
If you feel you cannot keep your friend's secrets, tell them at once. They will thank you for your honesty.
To keep you on track to not letting friend's secrets slip, follow these four simple rules:
1. Do not tell. The single most basic rule that is just so hard for people to do. If you do not open your mouth, no one will know. Push that urge deep down and do not tell a soul because it will more than likely spread like wildfire. It is human nature.
2. Do not act as if you have inside information. You may not say anything, but you will give off vibes that let others know you do know something they don't know. People will start questioning you endlessly. The more you resist the worst it gets. Therefore, keep it to yourself and do not imply that you know anything.
3. Play along. Stay calm, go along with what people are saying but do not reveal anything. Play along, asking if anyone else knows anything. Just do not freeze up, get nervous and suddenly change the subject. You will look very suspicious.
4. Refuse to tell. Look them straight in the eye and say, "I'm not at liberty to discuss this information." If people will not stop questioning you or you feel cornered, try changing the subject. If that does not work, ask if anyone had a friend tell their secrets and how did it make them feel. If that does not help, simply excuse yourself and leave the area and the conversation. That will show them you are serious.
I learned that the hard way. I lost a very dear friend of mine over something I thought was trivial and harmless. Trying to be funny, I let my friend's secret out as a joke, and I will regret it forever.
Secrets are not supposed to be told. A friend telling you a secret is putting his or her trust in you. Even if you do not believe it should be kept secret or you think it will make a funny conversation at a party, do not tell anyone. You will not only lose that friend, but word will get around and you may lose other friends as well.
If you feel you cannot keep your friend's secrets, tell them at once. They will thank you for your honesty.
To keep you on track to not letting friend's secrets slip, follow these four simple rules:
1. Do not tell. The single most basic rule that is just so hard for people to do. If you do not open your mouth, no one will know. Push that urge deep down and do not tell a soul because it will more than likely spread like wildfire. It is human nature.
2. Do not act as if you have inside information. You may not say anything, but you will give off vibes that let others know you do know something they don't know. People will start questioning you endlessly. The more you resist the worst it gets. Therefore, keep it to yourself and do not imply that you know anything.
3. Play along. Stay calm, go along with what people are saying but do not reveal anything. Play along, asking if anyone else knows anything. Just do not freeze up, get nervous and suddenly change the subject. You will look very suspicious.
4. Refuse to tell. Look them straight in the eye and say, "I'm not at liberty to discuss this information." If people will not stop questioning you or you feel cornered, try changing the subject. If that does not work, ask if anyone had a friend tell their secrets and how did it make them feel. If that does not help, simply excuse yourself and leave the area and the conversation. That will show them you are serious.
- Do not tell your friend's secret.
- Secrets are not made to be broken.
- Be a good friend, take it to the grave.