A Christian Perspective on Non-Sexual Promiscuity

The Negative Effects of Giving Yourself Without Giving it Up

By PTLeena, published Apr 23, 2007
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I'm a Christian and therefore may see the world of sex and dating slightly differently than much of the rest of the planet. What I consider to be promiscuous might be normal for somebody else. What I consider to be normal might seem prudish to another. But no matter what I or anybody else believes, is it possible that we might all be engaging in the same activity: promiscuity?

Dictionary.com uses many words and phrases to describe promiscuity: "Having casual sexual relations frequently with different partners," "Casual, random," "Lacking standards of selection; indiscriminate." Yet what exactly are sexual "relations"? If you ask former President Bill Clinton, "relations" means intercourse. If you ask me, I say anything related to sex. If you look on Dictionary.com, both answers are defined. Therefore, those who engage in things related to sex, whether intercourse or something of a lesser caliber, and who engage in such activities frequently and casually, are being promiscuous. Many times religious people (myself included) try to substitute certain behavior for other behavior that could be considered "sexual" or "sinful". 1 Corinthians 6:19 tells us that our "bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit within." In essence, when we sin against our bodies, we sin against our souls. If we are giving ourselves to people who are not our spouses, we are corrupting our relationship with the Holy Spirit.

A Christian Perspective on Non-Sexual Promiscuity

Even kissing can make you promiscuous

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Takeaways
  • You can be promiscuous without having sexual intercourse
  • Casual "relations" do not prepare us for relationships
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"I'm a Christian and therefore may see the world of sex and dating slightly differently than much of the rest of the planet." HAHAHHAHAHAH!!!! As a Christian statement is an automatic sign that your views are narrowminded. I'm sorry, but religion should not inhibit sexual desires that are natural. It should enhance it by teaching healthy sexual desires and the benefits of such desires. I believe in God, but I do not understand how Christianity and any other religions have come and suppressed natural desires that assist in procreation. Is kissing really wrong. No more wrong than having sex, making love, or purely f-------. What is wrong about our sexual desires is how we pursue them. When become intimate on the bases that spiritual and emotional voids will be filled by so-called love than that is a problem. We teaching our bodies that love comes from the outside rather than within. However, when we embrace ourselves as humanbeings with issues and desires and embrace the natural c

Posted on 12/09/2007 at 2:12:25 PM

 
I think you presented a very good article. You are very brave. Do not take offense to anyones' comments...wherever the Bible is brought up, there will be followers with disagreeance. If it counts, I am a Christian woman too and am rooting for this same thing, even though it is so easy to fall.

Posted on 04/29/2007 at 12:04:00 AM

 
Lacking standards of selection. It just makes me laugh because some people who have only ever been with on partner could still have lacked standards of selection. Hahaha. Just meant to be light after the intense debate.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 7:04:00 PM

 
PTLeena, My comment wasn't addressed to you but to the person who told you "I'll worry about my lips, you worry about yours." And I was just wondering at what point they abandon that idea and actually do worry about what another person does (the person they are in a relationship with).

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 5:04:00 PM

 
Dreah....lol, good call! Sharon, I'm talking about promiscuity PRIOR to or outside of a relationship. Nicole, good point but I'm willing to take the heat for my beliefs.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 4:04:00 PM

 
What? She's not supposed to mention the Bible because it's too soggy? I don't remember Jesus telling the disciples to go and tell people about Jesus...unless it's too soggy. Then you should pretend like you're not a Christian and are just a moral person.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 11:04:00 AM

 
Just a suggestion.... I think your concept for this article was good. I think that you make a few good points that are applicable to all, but you make your arguement soggy by including your own religious views. I too am a Christian, and I enjoy promoting Christian ideals in my writing, but I find that pure logic (such as your point about not being able to maintain relationships if all you know are casual encounters) is much more effective when not combined with support from the Bible. People who do not believe the Bible feel like they can then just discredit everything you have said.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 10:04:00 AM

 
And I'm not criticizing open relationships or swinging. It's just that if a person truly feels that everyone can decide for themselves what is promiscuous, then don't you also have to apply that freedom to a person you are in a relationship with? If not, there is definitely a double standard that you would allow a perfect stranger more leniency and freedom than you would someone you allegedly love.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 10:04:00 AM

 
On a subconscious level, I think many more people agree with your idea (at a basic level) then they realize, Leena. Otherwise, they wouldn't be able to apply their opinions about promiscuity and sexual behavior to the person they are in a relationship with. If no one had any standards, everyone who was in a relationship would be in an open relationship. If the attitude was truly "you do what you'll want, I'll do what I want," why would anyone expect or require fidelity?

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 10:04:00 AM

 
I believe there's a double standard in our society when it comes to promiscuity. So much is portrayed to look fun and that everybody's doing "it" - kissing and more . . . but if you actually do in real life then you get criticized for "cheating" . . . this makes me think of an article I wrote on admiring my wife . . . it's vital for me so I don't go around kissing bunches of others!

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 9:04:00 AM

 
Promiscuous is a loaded and judgemental term. You take care of your lips and I will take care of mine.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 7:04:00 AM

 
If nothing else, the threat of developing cold sores from smooching with the wrong person would make me more selective. Good article.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 6:04:00 AM

 
And Christina, nobody "forsees" problems....which is why hindsight is 20/20! 6 years is great, and I'm happy for you but you have NO idea what will happen in the next 10 years.

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 6:04:00 AM

 
Okay people, you are not getting the point. KISSING is not bad!!! It's kissing tons and tons of people with no strings attached that is. It's that "promiscuity" is not just about sex, but about sharing yourself intimately with MANY people. I'm all for kissing your BF/GF wife. Just not your neighbor, your boss, your gardener AND your significant other. Got it?

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 6:04:00 AM

 
What about actors kissing for movies-- is that an exception or a sin too? What do people think of that--- just curious. What about innocent truth or dare or spin the bottle games... oh to be a teenager again!

Posted on 04/25/2007 at 6:04:00 AM

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