How to Stop Dating Sociopaths, Bigots, Compulsive Liars, Porn Addicts, Stalkers, Alcoholics, Abusers And..

Hi Hannah.... Glad to read your stories and can relate big time. I'm a woman who's a sociopath man magnet and have encountered women sociopaths too, i.e. one boss and family friends. I've dated at least 7 sociopathic men. So, because of my tendency to attract them, I have been researching about them for years and years. Sociopaths are EVERYWHERE... in every walk of life. 1 in 25 to 30 people are sociopaths and 95% of those are men. There is a higher rate among the African race and the lowest is the Asian race. My sociopath dating experiences have mostly been with African men and let me tell you, you don't see it coming. I am a professional, intelligent and respectable citizen in society and have met these men through different circumstances, not necessarily a bar or such. The internet is the worst place!! Many of the men were spiritual (even very religious), hard working, generous, loving, affectionate, intelligent and some had great jobs. Most didn't drink, do drugs or had any obvious

After a relationship progresses far enough the fairy tales over for us men too. Women are equally guilty of putting on a false act, and the defeatist "no matter how smart you are, there smarter" does not allow one to build optimal self esteem. And all the guy's that are "perfect" women don't seem to be attracted to so being chivalrouse and a "nice guy" is useless as it doesn't get a guy anywhere but the dreaded friend speech. People do what get's them results if women can see men as disposable meal tickets then don't expect men to just roll over and die without a strategy book of our own.

Winnie: I was not attracted to the "Bad Guy". I was attracted to the "False Self" they put on untill I fell in love with them. Once they got comfortable, their ugly heads reared! This is why I say anyone can be fooled. However, the last 7 years, I have avoided All the dysfunctional men by checking, checking & double checking everything about them before I date. Needless to say, I haven't dated in almost 7 years, because I found out ahead of time they were Bad News!

I went through counseling once to try to determine why I always ended up with losers like this. What I found out is that it wasnt so much that "they were so attracted to me" but that "I was attracted to them." It was the ole mothering urge and wanting to help and change people with problems. Now that I realize that those loosers dont seem to be so attracted to me.

I still have warm fuzzy feelings about all the men I've dated, but getting close to human beings tends to involve weirdness. "Jack" was a wonderful friend for many years, except that, while he looked young and healthy for 55, he was actually 70 years old (and died at 78). "Joe" said he was divorced and living with his children...which was true...until his ex-wife became ill, the children took her in too, and she announced that she had remarried him by common law for pension and benefits purposes. "Jim" seemed perfect in Starbucks except that he kept insisting he was someone rich and semi-famous, and the weird part was, the semi-famous person eventually became famous, and I think he really is "Jim" (and, according to the tabloids, he certainly isn't perfect). Is there hope? If so, it must lie in learning to enjoy being single. Thanks for sharing.

I agree, great article. But I would love to hear more about your process of recognizing your tendency to date these types, and how you broke away from that.

this is a really great article..makes you wonder where all the good guys went!...but, you know there are so many of these guys with "secrets"...every day..

Love this article.

If you read my article about "sexually exhausted women" it might help you.

Great read! WOW!

Very entertaining. Glad I happened upon this one!

I loved the title of this article. It caught my eye. Great job. I agree with much that you say. It is tough being single and even tougher finding a good person to date. Bravo!

Wow..!! I think I might just do the same or at least take a long break if this relationship doesn't work out.. I'm 22 and I can say that beneath every great mask a person wears is a story untold and unfortunately revealed. Girl where are the good ones? Maybe I too should stop making excuses for never leaving all I end up with are tears and a new theory about men. I love your honesty.

man that was really some article. you've been throught a lot. one time i went to a dollar theater with this guy(he asked me out). when we get to the ticket booth he asked me where my dollar was to get into the movie. i paid my way went in to see the movie, and that was the last time we spoke. oh and the best part. we were in my car because he didn't have one!!!! lol it's funny now but at the time. i just could not believe the nerve.

that was such a darned good article I read it a second time!