The Madonna Whore Complex-When the Father of Your Child No Longer Wants to Have Sex with You

Men suffering from the Madonna-Whore Complex, see women either as sexual beings ( whores), or as strictly love interests (mothers) only. They do not see women as integrated entity. They can't except that a woman who becomes a mother, can also be a sexual being also. They see things in black and white. This often starts to come about when the woman is pregnant with his child, or directly after the birth of his child. Before the women got pregnant, they may have had an extremely satisfying sex life. It's during the pregnancy, or after birth when the real problem begins.

There are as many different theories on why a man develops this way of thinking or believing, as there are theorists. It can be anywhere from the good old Oedipus Complex by Freud himself, or because of a cold, distant, unavailable mother, when he was a child growing up. Whatever the reason, men who suffer from this complex, seem to have a problem thinking that a woman can be a sexual being, as well as a mother. This type of man often feels like it it's wrong to have sexual feelings about a mother of a child, because he is relating to his own mother. On one hand the woman he sees as a "Whore", or sexual being, is the only one that he can relate to sexually. On the other hand, the "Madonna", or pure woman, who he truly loves, is seen as just that, and nothing more. He has a splitting, where the woman is not an integrated, or multi-faceted being. She is just one or the other. She is for one thing or the other, not both. Some men can have this type of belief, even if the woman never becomes pregnant or gives birth. However, I would like to just concentrate on the man that develops this because of pregnancy, or birth of a child.