The Date Doctor Volume #1

Each week I will take a few of the questions I get from men and women and answer some of them in this particular column. I will try to provide some solid advice that will help you with your situation and also advice that you can apply across the board to the opposite sex and your dating life. Here's to hoping this really benefits people of all different situations and ages.

Question from Mark (Tx State): Why are girls the devil? (Note to readers, this was long and drawn out, but this question is basically what it boiled down to)

Funny you ask that Mark, it's something I've been trying to come with terms with for a long time. I'm joking. Kinda. The thing with women/girls is that you have to set your expectations high for the type of woman you want, and low for what might come of said relationship. As a rule of thumb not much will happen with most women that you approach, and even take on a date, hence the low expectations. (This does not apply to Chad Michael Murray, that Stephen guy from the OC, etc).

The problem with most men is that this bothers them a lot more than it should. Instead of letting it bother you, dwelling over it and going so far as to call women the devil, take the approach I have. Learn from it. Chances are what didn't work with one girl won't work for others as well. Women give you a lot more information than most guys take. If it doesn't work out with one, ask yourself where it went wrong and don't do it again. Chalk it up to learning.

If you approach women in this manner, then you won't get upset and it won't affect your confidence when you get shot down. In the end you might even become friends - and by surrounding yourself with good female friends (and they'd rather be friends with you than some catty woman anyhow), you can learn even more. Let them go shopping with you to help you pick out some stylish threads, give you advice with other women, etc.... They can be endless resources and you to them.

Eventually, when you least expect it you will stumble across one that is the yin to your yang, that inspires you, makes you smile, and loves you and is someone you can love in return and then it's all gravy.