Things that Can Cause Your Wife Not to Want to Have Sex with You

Wow. The tone of this is not only extremely insulting to men, it assumes that all women want the same thing in the same way. Yikes.

into it, they are NOT forcing you they're just bitching alot like i'm sure you do, when they don't clean something up. Talk with your partner about sexual needs men, women tell them to stop scratching themselves in front of you, picking their nose, peeing with the door open, farting, burbing, teach them how to be more cleanly and attractive to you and you'll both have something accomplished, and men, yeah you get home from work and are tired, don't act like pigs and I don't mean sexual fiend pigs, take your shoes off by the door, go up stairs change put your clothes in a hamper, take a shower if you do and put on some relaxing clothes and go have a coversation with your wife or do whatever you normally do, but very tiny little things could get you alot further in the bed room at night then just sleeping. I respect both sides and can see how both sides are fed up but instead of fighting online about it with the oppisite sex strangers, talk to your partners.

Kay I can't offically read anymore, both sides are getting panties in a knot. I'm nuetral on pretty much everything. Women just stay home and get depressed it seems lately these days, men, they do work, even if your kid's 10 years old, she's still work, not refering to anything really, house work and taking care of finances and things like that, are work and it's a depressing job for most, women men are tired and they don't have very much time on their hands and i'm sure some of them are feeling older i'm sure if they had time, money and weren't exguhasted all the time they'd like to whine and dine you. And the whole sex issue, your both already doing something for eachother, men your supporting woman (if the wife isn't working) and your wife is taking care of your house and or kids, I'm not saying that YOUR BODY should EVER be payment for anything, but if you know men, they do have a need and they are going to want it, don't get mad at them for wanting it, and you don't have to give

you know, I hear about this sort of thing all the time, frankly I'm sick of it. women are not freaking handicap, they can get a job and and treat themselves out, my wife is this way; she get really upset when I don't get her a foooking "you're great" Card and Flowers every time she does something good, GeT THE F OUTA HERE. Men never get Sh*t for working our butts off everyday, we rarely complain about how much your whining is making us sick and want to choke the living p*$$ out of you. for crying out loud.... this is ridiculous...

What then happens when your wife is not employed (out of choice) and she spends the day watching TV as she has a maid who does the cooking and cleaning, but she still does not want to give you some except for maybe once a month ONLY! This is unfortunately is my reality, and after a long day slugging it out and erking a living to try and give her a comfortable lifestyle (which i must admit, should be if oone can watch digital satelite TV all day, and has not had a job in 4 years), one gets home to some attitude, and no loving. You would think the least that she can do is give you some uplifting attention, even if there is no sex involved. Our kid is ten yrs, and hence can pretty much do everything herself, so whats up with that? Does one still need to run rings around her at home as well, when you do enough of that by ensuring she has money for manicure, pedicure, hair and all the eating out one can afford.

Bravo to Terry and Chris! Like Terry, I do full-time paid work outsiode the home. I do the washing, cleaning, kids and yard as much as the time I have at home allows. To do more, I would have to switch to part-time paid work, which is not acceptable from a financial perspective. When I have a flu or cold, I am told to "suck it up", yet when my DP has flu or cold, pampering is expected, and complained loudly about if it is not up to the expected standard. Ya can't have it both ways ladies. Hormones, yes, we all have them. Paid work, yes we both do that. Unpaid work, yes, we both do that.

Wow. The comments to this article are like another whole article. I hope you're getting some page views on this one. Way to stand your ground too.

(continued from below) LOL and I HAVE sprung for the babysitter, given him head and had a 3some with his bestfriend. Terry you are absolutely right, it's not fair for a woman to with-hold sex, I really wasn't addressing those men who have wives that have already mentally divorced their husbands because that's exactly what that kind of behavior is. I was really talking to those husbands that have a loving wife but have this problem. sometimes the simplest things that can get it back on track and sometimes it's just a matter of telling these men what's going on. cruel and cold hearted wives are not the kind of women I was referring to.

(continued from below) Call me crazy but it drives me insane. I"m disgusted by and I don't want to hear or smell it. Some people find it funny and that's ok, but aren't I allowed the same right to not find it funny? I find it funny that alot of you commenting on this have focused on the time and cost of a romantic evening. Most of the suggestions I listed in this article are things I have done for my own husband, not what he's done for me. I have 4 kids who are involved in multiple extra curricular activities so yea I know all about time but when it comes to the person you love, you MAKE time. I'm beginning to wonder if those of you who balked about the time and cost have done so because the truth is sometimes uncomfortable.

(continued from below) when it comes to them then you are seriously fooling yourself. I'm not saying men don't have health issues, but what I'm saying is that women's hormones are a bigger issue for women. As far as payback goes to you husbands, dates and boyfriends, I agree every woman should treat her husband just as good as he treats her. you'll find no argument from me on that point. Concerning the whole article I think some of you have taken this the wrong way. I didn't say all wives have these issues or reasons or even problems. About the time i wrote this article I had been talking to a dear friend who DID have most of the things listed in this article as issues in her life. She was actually what prompted me to write this. I'm sure she's not the only woman in the world to think this way. There are a few things in this article that I myself am guilty of hating. for instance I absolutely HATE HATE HATE hearing ANY man, including my husband and son, fart or burp.

wow you guys got all up in arms. Is it just me or am I the only one that read the part in the first paragraph that says, "I'M GOING TO TELL YOU WHY IT'S THAT WAY, FOR A SMALL PORTION OF WOMEN" since you've had your say I'll mine, I wrote the article. First of all no I am not bitching about my husband because if I was it would include things like the receipts he can never seem to put away. As far as my sex life goes..well we're swingers and we have plenty of great sex, no complaints there. secondly, when I mentioned about husbands letting the wife do the dirty work, I NEVER said it pertained to ALL men. my husband did those things and so did my dad. Another thing is I wasn't saying you have to go this extreme every time you want sex. It was a mere suggestion moreso pointed at those who are just trying to start over in their sex life with their spouse or significant other. Yes I know men have hormones but if you think you can honestly sit there and tell me you have a harder time

(continued from below) but THIS is what the American Male puts up with. Then we get screamed at for wanting more than that, while temptation beckons around every corner. The attacks on our porn and masturbatory habits, our relative success in life, our level of love and devotion to our families, all because we want one simple thing that YOU, as a gender, have a monopoly on. This is a two-way street, sister. The things you want out of a relationship can be had . . . but the price is one that the average wife isn't willing to pay. And the average husband is tired of begging for scraps after working like a dog. The atavistic "husband doesn't do housework' may apply in your home, but none of MY married friends could get away with something like that. Champagne and pampering? When do we have freakin' time for that?

(continued from below)family life around. I do all the dishes, all the cooking, all the cleaning, and all the laundry, have changed 90% of the diapers for three kids, carpooled to and from two different schools everyday, PLUS maintained a full time professional job, the yard, household repairs, and the yard. I am most certainly not alone in this. Who is rubbing OUR backs? More importantly, who is catering to the one little thing we ask in return for our selfless devotion to wife and kids? Certainly not the "once a month moms" who dispense sexual favors like imperious queens. While rudeness and flatulence understandably skewer your "mood", try being told "I have a headache" every night for 28 days in a row and then be expected to a) continue non-sexual physical affection like nothing is amiss and b) jump up and down in slavish gratitude for the one time she condescends to spread her legs for fifteen minutes of pathetically lackluster sex. My own relationship is an exception, but

While I thought this was a well-crafted and well-executed article, I do have to agree with some of the other comments. Firstly, you are mistaken: Men do have hormones, specifically the hormone testosterone which is responsible for both sex and competitive behavior. We men are POISONED with the stuff, and it is responsible for our sex-centric behavior. It's also responsible for our achievement and success - qualities most women seek in a mate. For you to claim special license to complain because YOUR hormones are more important than OUR hormones is insulting. The attitude that you take is that sex is a special favor women grant men only AFTER we jump through numerous hoops, spend significant amount of cash, and beat ourselves to death trying to relax you. And if we fail, and the capricious whim of the woman in question goes against you? You end up with even GREATER levels of testosterone, simmering resentment, and growing frustration - yeah, that's a good thing to base a solid fa

*continued* however, you need to understand that a woman that puts her husband last can't expect him to put you first. You trivialize the man's role in a marriage by your article.