The Reality of Being Single in the City

Being a college educated single man or woman living in the big city sounds like a walk in the park. You do not have a spouse to compromise with. Many times you do not have children to contend with. All of you money is truly yours. You have nothing that binds you to one place. You can be whomever you want to be. However, the cliched American Dream doesn't always happen. Going to college, getting your ideal job and living happily ever after is not reality for most people. In the real world, things are not always fair. Life comes at you fast. It seems like every time you turn around, there is another thing you have to remember to do. Sometimes all those little things add up. He results can be depressing and devastating. The goal is to make the most of it, and enjoy all you can. This is sometimes easier said than done.

That idealistic mentality you had in college is long gone. First you have your career. Many of us have jobs with long hours and/or work multiple job just to somewhat stay on top of our bills. When you work 55-70 hours a week, finding time for a social life isn't always an easy thing. Not to mention, you might want to date from time to time. Life is a juggling act.

Admittedly being single does have its perks. It is not the most oppressive and depressing thing that could ever happen to a person. Still sometimes it is hard to make it all work.

Working is usually not an optional thing. Yes, some people have found ways to get paid lots of money for doing very little. The rest if us have to put in a great deal of time just to be able to take care of ourselves. I average a 60 hour work week between my full time job, my part time teaching job, and my writing jobs and that is just to be able to take care of myself. The hours are long. Sometimes it hard to stay focused, and burn out happens more often than I would like.