If The Secret is Real, What About Changing Others?

So you read the hotly debated new book "The Secret" or you saw the movie, maybe even both. Armed with your new ideas about the "Law of Attraction" you headed out to change the world or if not the world, at least your significant other. You had a plan. You carried out your plan to visualize every day that the person or group you wanted to change was becoming different.

Now weeks later you have your doubts. The good old boy or girl or group as the case may be, has not picked up the new vibe. He, she, it, they do not seem to understand that you are busy attracting a different reality. You might even be thinking, "This Law of Attraction thing doe not work after all." If it did you would see a difference by now, right?

Not only are you having your own doubts, but the so called experts have begun to doubt as well. At first all you heard about was how wonderful this new exotic secret was when you turned on your TV. Now there is debate. You might even be thinking perhaps it is time to look for a new method to force others to change so you can be happy at last. The debate is making your faith in the process shaky.
Yet debate is all well and good and just as it should be. Any idea of any merit should be openly debated, carefully scrutinized, and properly supported. I have always said that if I cannot openly and happily defend what I believe without being defensive, than I must not believe it very much. A debate is not so much a challenge as an exploration. The very creation of the debate suggests that the idea of attracting what we want by how we think is worthy of our time.

This is the time to take a deeper look. All around me, I hear people say variations of I am attracting so and so to be different and it is not working. Here is the problem, you not different. It is not so much about attracting the change as about thinking highly enough of the change you want that you are willing to BE THE CHANGE.