You may know someone that for every time you ask them to go somewhere with you they find an excuse, "I don't know...I may be busy...How long will it be...maybe next time...I'm working...I don't like that sort of thing..." Yet, you know that what they are saying contradicts their actions. You heard from others that they like what you are proposing or they have gone out with others in the past and had a good time. You have wondered if they just didn't like you, but judging by their actions they tend to act okay with the idea of going somewhere then later change or just reject the idea altogether. Recently, for whatever reason, they prefer to stay home. Why do we bother stressing over whether people do or don't go out with us? Are we that lonely that we actually get up on our soap box and try to persuade these people to spend time with us or worse lose sleep over them and bad mouth about them to someone else?
People who usually don't like to go anywhere are what I like to describe, "Funny acting people." In other words, they are in love with the idea, but not sold enough to act on it so they act strange, mean, or make up excuses as to why they don't go. Now some may have a medical condition like anxiety, but I'm not talking about those kinds of people. The ones I am speaking of may eventually take you up on an offer, and when they do you are sorry that you even asked them. I think all the excuse making that they do is your sign not to spend to much time with this person. After begging or coercing them to "get out the house," they may be happy at first but as you spend more time with them they have got to find something to complain about. "I didn't know this trip would be that long...I don't eat that...do we have to walk that far? I rather watch TV." If we had been wise, and paid attention earlier and looked at rejection being a good thing and not necessarily a bad thing we could have saved ourselves a headache and an argument with this ungrateful, negative person.
People who usually don't like to go anywhere are what I like to describe, "Funny acting people." In other words, they are in love with the idea, but not sold enough to act on it so they act strange, mean, or make up excuses as to why they don't go. Now some may have a medical condition like anxiety, but I'm not talking about those kinds of people. The ones I am speaking of may eventually take you up on an offer, and when they do you are sorry that you even asked them. I think all the excuse making that they do is your sign not to spend to much time with this person. After begging or coercing them to "get out the house," they may be happy at first but as you spend more time with them they have got to find something to complain about. "I didn't know this trip would be that long...I don't eat that...do we have to walk that far? I rather watch TV." If we had been wise, and paid attention earlier and looked at rejection being a good thing and not necessarily a bad thing we could have saved ourselves a headache and an argument with this ungrateful, negative person.
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